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  • Nov 14, 2013, 09:34 PM
    zblndbmbshll
    Why would a 4 year old make this statement?
    4 year old niece that quite frequently lies stayed 2 nights at an uncle and aunt's house. He goes to church on the last day, then over to her other uncles to swim for 4 hours and BBQ. Then to her dads to spend 2 days 1 night in a week. It's a1bedroom studio apt that is shared with 2 other grown men that drink alcohol and do illegal drugs.

    When picking girls up, normally the dad always walks the girls out to car and sees them off. This particular time he walked them to the door and did not walk them out, closing door after we stepped out. The statement made from niece after parents and 4 year old niece accused uncle of sexual assault. I thought it was odd since 4 year olds don't have a sense of reasoning for their age? The 4yr old niece stated "she was afraid to say anything cause she didn't want her daddy to go to jail!".

    4 year olds to my knowledge don't have the reasoning as to if I tell, my daddy would hurt uncle and daddy would go to jail? No one else thought this was an odd response that was said out of an unsolicited conversation that the child started.
  • Nov 15, 2013, 05:36 AM
    ScottGem
    Clearly the child was coached about not saying anything. But at that age, its difficult to not talk about things.

    So what needs to happen is the child needs to be examined for any physical signs of abuse and interviewed by a specialist who can get to the bottom of things.
  • Nov 15, 2013, 07:04 AM
    Jake2008
    It isn't unusual for a 4 year old to put behavior, with a consequence.

    The behavior being possible sexual assault, with the consequence of going to jail.

    Somewhere along the line I would think her mother would have talked about private parts, which 4 year olds understand without difficulty.

    I would not second guess what this child has said, and would immediately contact social services, or your family doctor, and make sure the child is talked to and examined.

    I would also not allow a 4 year old to sleep over with her father in a one bedroom studio apartment with drunks and drug users. That alone is enough to be concerned.

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