Hi everyone
I'm 23 years old girl living in Iran. I sometimes hang out in my city with Tourists as a local guide so I met many people in this way specially many men. So I know it's ridiculous to start a relationship with a traveler and I always reminded myself that they are travelers be Smart girl but I met a guy from Czech two months ago and really liked him we hanged out like 3 times every time till mid night. Also he told me that he likes me that I'm his dream girl and he has to back to Iran to meet me again and asked me to stay in touch with him and don't forget him... we still keep in touch through e-mails and since that time I couldn't stop thinking about him. A well educated and handsome man that I'm afraid how to keep this kind of relationship or I might lose him.
Any advice?

Most long distance relationships don't last, and yours is statistically even less likely because you spent only 3 days together. That doesn't mean that you aren't an exception. There's no way for us to know what he is thinking and how many other women are tempting to him.

There's no magic way to make yourself more desirable, except to live a full and interesting life of your own, not hanging on his every word. Tell stories about the tourists you meet, people you know, politics, history, classes you take, books you read.

Actually good advice for any relationship - leading somewhat separate lives helps keep them alive.

Worst part is when he sends me his photos and asks me to send him some too... yeah I should give up! He's a perfect man so there is no way he stays single for long time. Thanks

Don't do it. Men will tell you anything. He probably travels a lot and tells a lot of girls this. Unless he resides in the city where you are don't do it. You'll get hurt in the end

First off being in Iran are you considering what this relationship might do to you? In muslim countries it is not as free as the western world. You may be putting yourself in danger by trying to continue this over the internet and by phone. Please be very careful.

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Originally Posted by cdad

First off being in Iran are you considering what this relationship might do to you? In muslim countries it is not as free as the western world. You may be putting yourself in danger by trying to continue this over the internet and by phone. Please be very careful.

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Well I think he is serious about me but as you say it might make a problem bcz of my country, but for me religion is not a problem bcz I'm not a religious person and my family same as me... I'm always so sensitive about relationships but this time it's not easy...
Or I might go to Germany for study next year bcz he encouraged me a lot to study abroad.

To make such plans over a guy you just met and don't really know very well isn't wise at all. You may be intrigued, and attracted, But there are many more things to learn before he can be counted on.

He is far to experienced than you are, and you are far to smitten to even think logically. Internet buddies fine, but romance?? Sounds better than it may be so be careful. Only a foolish person gives their heart to a far off stranger, so don't get carried away by your feelings or his sweet words.