Ask Me Help Desk - Family issues.

Before the question, the situation involves my brother, myself, and a little bit of my parents. My brother and I are a year out of college and live in our own houses on my parent's property (if that matters).

So here's the skinny, I been working at Walmart since senior year of high school and my brother is still jobless. He came in asking me for an application (I work in the meat dpt. So that wasn't my place to help him). I told him that he would have to go to the office and I even pointed that out. He got angry because he wanted me to do it for him and put in a big word right then and there. I was currently busy so I couldn't. anyway, because of his anger issues, he started throwing the meat from the case around. My boss was coming over to check my work and noticed the meat scattered everywhere and got onto me about it. After explaining it was my brother, he fired me because (in his words) "stop blaming the customers, it's embarrassing to the company...".

So after getting home, my parent's called me and told me they are very angry with me for losing my job and it was rude to blame my brother. Since then, none of them want to talk to me until I say sorry and get my brother a job at Walmart.

I don't feel as if he deserves it and I don't feel as if I need to say sorry. What do I do?

They want YOU to get him a job? After you were fired?
He needs to go and talk to the manager, admit that he was having a temper tantrum and maybe there is a chance you can get your job back.
Sounds like the whole family needs a reality check.

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Originally Posted by smearcase

They want YOU to get him a job? After you were fired?
He needs to go and talk to the manager, admit that he was having a temper tantrum and maybe there is a chance you can get your job back.
Sounds like the whole family needs a reality check.

That's just what I thought too. They really look at him as the favorite and any success of mine is seen as my brother "being the right influence".

I did however go back earlier and talk to the manager and suggested bringing up the security film. Unfortunately they can't give me my job back unless my brother and a witness provides a matching story (since security camera footage can only be viewed for criminal purposes i.e. stealing).

They can, they just won't.

I'm sorry your parents have brought him up this way. Having houses for each of you sounds very strange to me, as though they are rich but couldn't be bothered to enrich your lives with love and good education. They also sound as though they are from another culture, where sons are given far too much preference over girls.

You need to stand up to them somehow, and make it clear that it was your brother who got you fired, and that you can't get your job back, much less get him a job! They are living in a dream world. What kind of work do they do?

Maybe you need away from this type of behavior and attitude. You are college educated. A better job can be found and your independence can serve you no matter what anybody thinks or does.

Your past comfort zone has become uncomfortable to say the least.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

They can, they just won't.

I'm sorry your parents have brought him up this way. Having houses for each of you sounds very strange to me, as though they are rich but couldn't be bothered to enrich your lives with love and good education. They also sound as though they are from another culture, where sons are given far too much preference over girls.

You need to stand up to them somehow, and make it clear that it was your brother who got you fired, and that you can't get your job back, much less get him a job! They are living in a dream world. What kind of work do they do?

Well my brother and I each have a small single person cabin that was Amish built, so it's not that much of a house.My dad broke his lower back and can't work unless its paperwork, while my mom stays at home.

The problem with them is that their pride and ego skyrockets beyond space itself.

My dad was raised in an aggressive male environment ( he was 1 of 4 brothers and his mother was deceased). My mother just didn't want a daughter and as of right now, she has 2 boys. Both of their beliefs are a mix of the first born (boy or girl doesn't matter) is the prodigy and the second belief is the fact that out of all the children, at least one needs to be the brains and the others are the brawn.

This is so weird, I'm wondering if it's a real post.

If this is real and your family won't speak to you because you won't recommend your brother for a job that you had, and he got you fired from - well, consider it a blessing. If I were you, I wouldn't be speaking to them.

Probably time to look outside your area for a better job, and get housing off your parents property. Flaky.