Originally Posted by
CravenMorhead
Why do you believe that he's addicted? It isn't because he's a man that he feels that he doesn't need to visit a counsellor but that he feels that he hasn't done anything wrong or there's anything that he needs to see a counsellor about. I think he has a point and not because of bros standing up for bros.
How is your sex life? That's my first question. Is it still decent? How often do you two have sex? How often does he initiate and how often do you?
As well how is your erotica intake? Mental stimulation that gets you going? IE, romance novels, romantic comedies, and erotic literature (50 shades of grey).
How much time do you spend snooping for his Porn? You say that you're constantly check his internet browser history, how often do you do this? He also knows he can have any physical porn because the last time he had it you blew up on him so the electronic methods are the only that open to him at the moment.
I am trying to get a better idea of what is going on here but also trying to get some lights to go off in your head too.
Men look at women. Happily married men with what both partners would describe as an awesome sex life look at women.It is an ingrained biological imperative. It could be the waitress that bends over the right way or the woman walking down the street. It is hard to not look. There is also excessive, but I don't think he's reached that point.
As for the porn. So? The subject matter is a little concerning but not overly so. It isn't so much that he wants to live out what the story is telling but that he's pulling a seed of fantasy from the story. That thought for him is arousing, not the context but the primal feeling of it. He's just pulling the thoughts into fantasy so that when he rubs one off, which he is also doing, he has something to do it to. Does it mean that he will carry out what he had seen or read? Nope. Not in the least. He's just looking and whacking.
He is also hiding this because he doesn't want to piss you off. Which You are getting at a drop of a hat. You're snooping and regardless of if you find something you're going find nothing and still be peeved. Which really just shows a huge lack of trust and is leading this spiral downward. You've already decided he's guilty and trying to find evidence to prove that you're right. It's a witch trial.
So where do you go from here. First off stop snooping. As for the rest, I would like to hear back on the questions I asked above before giving more advice. I also want you to think about the intimacy within your relationship outside of the bed room. Is it good?
