How to stop fighting with each other?
My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs. It has been very rough. I came with a son and we have 3 more together. I was in a very violent relationship with my oldest ones father. My now husband has been violent also. Not in the past 2-2/12 yrs. He does call a lot of names and says things like: you should feel honored and privileged I still want to sleep with you. Or you need to be more grateful and respectful to me. Or show some gratitude.
Now I'm no angel I have called him an a**hole and things like that. I only work 20 hours a week. So I do the household work. But I hear from him how he does everything and such. I feel like a constant failure. Like I'm never going to be enough. He says he loves me and the boys, but will manipulate the conversation and turn it all back on me. Like I said I'm not perfect, I need to work on my patience and I do yell, and we don't have a lot of sex anymore. He will put it in my face about how I don't give him enough sex. No matter how I tell when he does that, it makes it another job for me to do and if I don't it’s a fight.
I told him I was done, he said he would change, that lasted a week. Now he told me it was over, that he wasn't going to play my games anymore. That's exactly what I told him before. What should I do?