I broke up with this guy 2 weeks ago. We were dating for two months but he didn't ask me to be his girlfriend. Two days after, I told him it was a mistake and told him how much I want him back. I asked to meet up with him and he said he was busy and couldn't. I told him that we need to talk about it and he said " we will make arrangements". He said he wants some time off, so I let him be.

He messaged me a week after asking how I was doing and I told him I was good and I did not talk about us. He started answering me with just one word answers. Every time he messages me first and just gives me straight up answers. When I do message him, he gets all critical to me and kind of mean. What is going on with him?

I haven't even brought up the conversation about our breakup ever since he started msging me so I wouldn't annoy him. He msged me, yet he acted as if I am annoying!

Please find somebody that loves you for who you are. He clearly does not. Be patient, pray about it and above all, be yourself. You should be a treasure to your man... this right man will come along. There are guys out there who would love to have somebody like you who is thoughtful and considerate. Don't sell yourself short.

As a date maybe, as a girlfriend... NO! How old are you both?

If he is acting as if you are annoying him, he does not want you as a girl friend. I'd leave him alone. If he wants you he will explain his silly behavior.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

As a date maybe, as a girlfriend... NO! How old are you both?

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Sad thing is, I am 23 and he is 24
Yet, he is acting so immature. I know I've hurt him by breaking up with him, however, I have apologised repeatedly and told him I wanted him back. I just do not understand him.

When you broke up with him, you probably hurt him and now he's playing games with you. Or maybe he figured you have issues since you broke up with him then changed your mind 2 days later....he felt like some sort of yo-yo. This isn't going to work out. Forget about him and move on.

You could have stopped dating since you weren't in a relationship, you could have talked instead of playing the break up game.

Invite him to lunch, your treat. Have fun and talk while you eat. Expect nothing except he may reciprocate with asking YOU out, to talk, and have fun. That's dating. That boyfriend/girlfriend stuff is for AFTER you get to know each other and ready for official commitment to be exclusive and learn more. He isn't ready for that and you dumped him(?).

A couple that can't have fun in the dating stage will never work.

Not asking you to be his girlfriend was a reason to "break up"? PHHTTTTTTTTT!

Are you saying you ended the relationship because after 2 months he had not asked you be be his girl friend?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Are you saying you ended the relationship because after 2 months he had not asked you be be his girl friend?

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Lol no
I ended it because we were not communicating and we had some other problems as well that I felt were not going to be solved. But I did miss him after which is why I asked him.back.

NO communications, NO relationship.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

NO communications, NO relationship.

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I have spoken to him about it and here's the deal.
When I met him, I knew he was planning to look for a job abroad because he wanted ro see the world, but it was uncertain. So, I asked him what seems to be the problem, and he said that he is looking for a job abroad and that he has his mind set up on leaving.
He also told me that he was a bit depressed and is not in the mood to talk to anyone and not only me. That he doesn't intend to be mean with me, but its just the stress.
So, the whole problem is that he is worried about how upset I would be with him leaving and all, so he was kind of keeping his distance from me, but at the same time he did want to talk to me.
I honestly do not know what to do, he continued on the same "dry" messages today and yesterday still and it does annoy me and even hurts my feelings a bit to have him distancing himself from me, yet messages me every once in a while.
I do have deep feelings for him and even think I'm falling from him . However, I gathered that he does not feel the same and he also said that if we got back now together it would be temporary as he would be leaving soon.so he can not be with me on the long term.
Please advise me :(

Your solution is VERY simple, tell him to leave you alone so YOU can start to heal from this disappointment. Continued contact is only dragging out the misery, and delaying the inevitable.

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Your solution is VERY simple, tell him to leave you alone so YOU can start to heal from this disappointment. Continued contact is only dragging out the misery, and delaying the inevitable.

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The reason I'm still holding on to him, is I keep telling myself that he might fall in love with me. That if I end this now, I will never know what could have been , etc.
What do I tell myself to easen those feelings?
I know I sound so silly, but it's like I have found the perfect man for me, and now our circumstances got in the way! :(

Stop lying to yourself and filling your head with false hope. Tell yourself to LET GO!!

Reality, circumstances, or just bad timing, doesn't matter, fact is its not going to work. Make a choice, let go or be STUCK.

Is this the guy who is going away in a couple of months? You are not communicating well and there are problems anyway. I doubt that he will fall in love with you because he knows he going away and he has already told you his feelings.
It's only been two months, leave the guy alone. He's not the only one in the world. You are sounding pretty desperate

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Is this the guy who is going away in a couple of months? You are not communicating well and there are problems anyway. I doubt that he will fall in love with you because he knows he going away and he has already told you his feelings.
It's only been two months, leave the guy alone. He's not the only one in the world. You are sounding pretty desperate

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I will let go. He has stopped contacting me anyway, so there is nothing left to do I'm sure.
I just have a question. Do you think that had he wanted things to work out with me, he would have hold on to me?
He is acting as if he is never coming back even though he is American too!
And I keep thinking, had he seen me in his future, he would have tried to stay with me?
What do you think?

If he had strong feeling for you, he would have found a way for you two. He didn't. You guys had not known each other that long and he was not looking for a future with you.
Let it go.

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If he had strong feeling for you, he would have found a way for you two. He didn't. You guys had not known each other that long and he was not looking for a future with you.
Let it go.

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In all honesty, I don't even think I like him anymore.
The fact he kept on being mean and critical to me just turned me off and pushed me away.
I just alwaya get worried every time I break up with someone that maybe that someone was the "one" and I've let him go!
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Originally Posted by talaniman

Stop lying to yourself and filling your head with false hope. Tell yourself to LET GO!!

Reality, circumstances, or just bad timing, doesn't matter, fact is its not going to work. Make a choice, let go or be STUCK.

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Update: last time we had spoken, we have agreed on meeting to see what we should do next.
Has been 13 days and I haven't heard from him, so I decided to message him last night.
He didn't bring up the topic of meeting, so I bought it up and told him that I was waiting for him to confirm it.
All he said was "I know its my fault and I should have msged you by now"
So I told him" it's ok, dont worry about it, I do miss talking to u"
He then said "oh really?" And I said "yes"
And he hasn't replied afterwards
What do you think? Do tou think I should also delete him from Facebook and Twitter and all?or would it be giving him too much attention?
I am now hurt because I feel as though I have invested my emotions and time into someone who is not much into me nor does he like me as he told me.

Delete him and don't contact him. He has moved on and so should you.
Next time don't put your all into someone after only 2 months. This is a learning about each other time.