I have been going out with a guy for the past (3) three months. And each time I offend him and try to apollogies he calls me drama queen and always remind me that he is not ready for drama. Please I will need your help to know how to behave and talk around him. Thank you.

What is his definition of drama? What are you doing or saying that he considers drama?

Each time I wrong him I have to apollogies so manytimes the latest one was when we were chatting on BBM and he stop chatting to me without any reason so I ask him if I have offended him in any way but he didn't mind me for hours so I left my phone behind to attend to something only to return to find my kid sister using my phone and she accidentically delated his contact from my BBM and he think I did that on purpose when all I did was to apollogies and explain myself to him for days now and he started telling me that he is not ready for this drammer. So that was what happen

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Each time I wrong him I have to apollogies so manytimes the latest one was when we were chatting on BBM and he stop chatting to

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Apologize once and then stop. The fact that you keep apologizing makes you a drama queen.

Why do you think you have to keep apologizing over and over and over and over again?

Thank you very much I will I will listen to your advise and a pologies only ones. Thanks once again

Also... without knowing the whole story, just from what I read from you so far, it sounds like he may be a drama queen as well. Keep that in mind.

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Thank you very much I will I will listen to your advise and a pologies only ones. Thanks once again

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And is he being a drama king, demanding repeated apologies from you?

Thanks a lot

To me, it seems like he is trying to be controlling. He is training you not question or upset him by accusing you of being a 'drama queen'. He appears to be the one causing the drama.

Instead of talking with you, he is stepping back and making you work to get back into his 'good graces.' You do things his way or he throws a fit and turns it back on you making everything your fault. Think about the times he has gotten upset/called you a 'drama queen.' Did you really do anything to cause drama other than being concerned you might have upset him?

Stop apologizing unless you actually did something to upset him and he informs you that he is upset or offended. Then apologize only once. Stop taking the responsibility for his feelings/actions. Be responsible for your own.

Frankly, you have only been dating him for three months. If I were you, I would not invest more time in this relationship. I would walk away instead of dealing with his drama.