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Am I wrong to feel this way?

I really really want to be adopted. My mom is in chemotherapy and her favorite thing to do for the past year is send me to this stupid room and tell me to do my homework. She says if I don't she is going to slap me, but I honestly don't have anymore homework to do.

She is my aunt. My real mom died. My sister talks to me about stuff when I'm allowed to have my phone (rare) and my dad has me every other day if he decides he does want me. I can't stay over at his, only every other Friday. I'm not allowed to go to bed till about 11- or later.

Why does she hate me. My sister refuses to talk about where my really dad is, or what he did, and why he can't be here. I just want to have a new home. Am I asking for something that is way to stupid, or is this seem not very nice to do to a 15 year old.

Your post is contradicting.

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my dad has me every other day if he decides he does want me. I can't stay over at his only everyother Friday

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my sister refuses to talk about where my really dad is or what he did and why he can't be here

So who's the dad that takes you every other day and on weekends if he's not your real dad?

If you want to be adopted your parents will have to put you up for adoption. If you're being mistreated then call CPS, if they find you're being mistreated they'll remove you from the home and put you in foster care. How old are you?

How are your grades in school? Do you do any chores around the house, as a regular thing or whenever you see something needing to be done?

Are you male or female?

No he is my uncle he is good to me its just my mom

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

How are your grades in school? Do you do any chores around the house, as a regular thing or whenever you see something needing to be done?

Are you male or female?

Female and my grades are great because all I do is sit in this room I'm in it right now. Mmmmmmm... chores are like anything I'm told to do.

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Originally Posted by ELEFANT1051

no he is my uncle he is good to me its just my mom

So the man that you see every second day isn't your dad, but your Uncle? Why did you call him your dad?

Bottom line, if you're being abused call CPS. They'll come investigate. If they find that the circumstances are putting you in danger, they'll remove you from the home and place you in foster care. Foster care sucks.

After that, the people that are your legal guardians will be given a chance to straighten up, and get you back.

To clear the way for adoption your biological parents, or legal parents, will have to place you.

Did your Aunt and Uncle adopt you?

Again, how old are you?

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Originally Posted by ELEFANT1051

female and my grades are great because all i do is sit in this room im in it right now. mmmmmmm...... chores are like anything im told to do.

How about doing stuff that you aren't told to do -- clear the table after eating, load the dishwasher or wash dishes, do laundry and then fold it and put it away after it's dry, vacuum, dust, etc. If your mom/aunt is undergoing chemo, she'd probably appreciate that.

Sometimes parents can't see what the kids go through, sometimes the kids can't see what the parents are going through.

Sounds to me like the kids AND the parents here are going through, and been through an AWFUL lot. I think you hang in there a bit longer, and no, its not stupid to want better than you have, and be happier than you are.

Its not easy for any of your family right now.

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.

Tal, if you'd stop being so brilliant I'd be able to spread the rep around more before I got to you again. :)

I totally agree.

I went through two parents dying of cancer. I was 30, married, had a toddler, but my parents and I were very close, and I saw them every day, took them to doctor appointments, and for the last 4 plus months of my moms life she lived with me, after my dad had already passed away from cancer.

Your Aunt is in Chemo right now. It's not easy. It's hard not only on her, but the entire family.

Imagine feeling drained every day, feeling sick every second of every day, not even having the energy to stand up, cook, clean, much less work and care for a child. It's hell on Earth.

I feel bad that you have to be present while this is happening, and I realize you're a child, so you only see how it's effecting your life, not the effect it has on your Aunt. But this is the time to grow up a bit, realize it's not all about you, that other people have it hard too, especially your Aunt. Cancer is very difficult, and chemo really is hell. So maybe you have to stop thinking only of yourself. I know that's hard to ask of a child, but sometimes children have to grow up very fast when bad things happen to their families.