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  • Oct 11, 2013, 11:04 PM
    sabresfan23
    What is she thinking?
    Met this girl about a month ago she’s a law student so she’s pretty busy. We’ve been texting the entire time and been out on about 3 dates. Last week we went to dinner Thursday and right after she invited me to go out with her friends and I ended up staying the night. Friday night rolls around and we go back over to her place where she’s having people over. This girl introduces me to all her friends and it was fine.

    We go our separate ways until she invites me back later around 2 am. She has friends staying with her that night so I can’t stay but we fool around on her stairs for a bit.

    Ever since then she’s pretty distant not trying to hang out and I have to start every conversation etc. she did have several exams this week and I get that but still I can tell there’s something different. I want to ask her what the hell is going on but I figured I’d give her the weekend and see how that plays out first. I haven't texted her for two days. What do you think?
  • Oct 12, 2013, 04:17 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Who knows but her? Why don't you ask her.
    Maybe her test did not come out well, maybe she was not that in to you... It could be anything but only she knows .
  • Oct 12, 2013, 04:23 AM
    joypulv
    2 words: LAW SCHOOL

    Law school is just so much memorizing, it boggles the mind. You may think there is something else going on, but why cut short your chances by assuming that? Sure, maybe she lost interest, maybe someone else is in the picture, but it makes no sense to think that way until you know.
    Stop texting. Some guy did that to me more than twice, I'd break my phone into pieces. Texting about what? How are you? When can I c u?
    Texting is the most stultifying, boring, annoying, mindless invention since the corset.
  • Oct 12, 2013, 04:37 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Joyful, texting is the new "phone call" We are losing the art of conversation.
  • Oct 12, 2013, 05:49 AM
    joypulv
    True, and I'm showing my age. I cheerfully accept all sorts of new things in the world, but not this one...
    It isn't just that texting is boring in general. I am convinced that it ruins tons of relationships, because if one person is more eager than the other early on, as this person is, the texting gets desperate and out of hand, and that person ends up getting squashed like a pesky mosquito. SPLAT! Done, buddy. Roadkill. Toast. Hiss-to-reee.
  • Oct 12, 2013, 07:17 AM
    Jake2008
    Why not test the waters a bit and put your mind at ease.

    Ask HER out, instead of sitting around waiting to see if you'll hear from her again. Text (or better yet- phone- and see if she might be interested in going to a movie next weekend. That shows that you are interested.

    If she responds with a 'no', but without any other suggestion such as maybe getting together the following Tuesday for lunch, then you have your answer.

    I know law students are busy, I have a son in his second year of law school, and I barely get a text once a week, and at that it's only three words- I am fine.

    But that only goes so far, as far as the texting is concerned. I think that it is a cold way of communicating, and all too easy to ignore a text, or not text really anything that seems like a 'proper' conversation. Maybe step outside the box a little.

    You won't know that she's actually waiting for you to make contact, and set something up, unless you try.
  • Oct 12, 2013, 11:27 AM
    talaniman
    There are many things to find out about an attractive stranger you have only known for a month, and only had a few dates with. The air is filled with the spice of mystery and possible romance especially after stolen kisses in the moment..!

    Right now you got what you got until you learn more and the hell with those differences and insecurity she isn't doing more to get closer. I mean what do you expect her to be doing? The only text I would be sending is for a date. The rest is BS, but I'm old school. Face to face, or phone, or NOTHING.

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