My first love keeps calling me and saying he misses me but the only problem he is dating my friend. She is extremely jealous and they have been together a long time but he says he want me not her, says he misses me. What should I do? Should I go back out with him?

If he really cared for you he would simplify things and end it with her. And that's your friend. Why is she dating him if he's your ex? Why do you want him if he's dating your friend? Messed up.

I guess he hasn't got enough in him to end with who he doesn't want and go back with you. Or else he is playing games and getting a laugh out of the drama he is creating. Really immature!

So she's holding a gun to his head? Has his first born child locked in a closet for ransom?
No, he is free to leave her before he comes back to you, but is too weak to do it right. He's hanging on to her in case you and he don't work out again. Do you remember why you didn't work out the first time?
He's not worth the time. He's playing both of you.
FRIENDS are worth more than that kind of person any day.

If he really wanted you he would leave her and be with you. Why would you even wonder if you should go back to someone who would do that? He's playing both of you.

His girlfriend has good reason to be jealous- he's a player, and likely you aren't the only 'other woman'.

Why would you want a man who would be so deceitful, and lies, and sneaks phone calls with other women, behind his long time girlfriend's back.

He's not any better a man, with you, or with her.

I would tell him to bug off. He has proven that your breakup was the right choice for you in the first place, simply by the fact that he's willing to stab his (now) girlfriend in the back.

You can do better.

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should I go back with my ex?

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No!!

Me and him dated in high school I was totally in love with him. He was special to me but I made the mistake of cheating on him but he took me but I guess after that the trust on his side was gone. So we broke up. He is dating my friend because I think he need someone to take to and she was there but honestly I don't know why they are dating she is my friend and he is ex. They have together a couple years now and he calls and texts me and says he misses me and he wishes she was me he still loves me. I am so confused

Six of us all said NO and here you are, asking again. You think that by telling us that you cheated on him, that will change things. It won't. If he misses you so much he shouldn't be hanging on to her while he feels you out to see what you might be willing to do. How can we make it more clear?

So see him again, and lose your friend.
Or tell him to show some integrity, but if you have to spell it out for him, he doesn't have integrity in the first place.
Do what you want, since you don't like what we said anyway.