My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and he told me that his ex called saying she's pregnant and they've been dating before I dated him. Later I asked how many months is this girl and he said with confidence 4 months, and I was like shocked because we dated for 8 months. So that means he cheated on me and I was quiet when I asked him why. He said he was sorry, it was a mistake.

I don't know what to do. My friends say I must move on. I don't deserve this I am in grade 9 and he doesn't go 2 school but still he still chats and call the girl. He says it wasn't his girlfriend, but he was lying.

He did it because he could. Yes, he lied to you. Move on without him. He's going to be busy for the next 18+ years.

Him cheating on you isn't even on the list of things he needs to address. Nor should it be your concern. He's going to be a father, you need to get out of the way of this boy figuring out what to do about this pregnancy. Even if the girl terminates the pregnancy, you need to step out of his life for good.

You had a bad result because you made bad decisions. You are in ninth grade and are in a relationship you aren't old enough for. He took advantage because you are young and he could. You chose a boy too unreliable, immature and irresponsible to stay in school... and found him to be unreliable, immature and irresponsible.

At your age, there should be no one on one dating. It should be going out with groups to learn how to be friends with boys. No sex until you are educated, employed, at the very least 18, able to make your own medical decisions, legal age to sign a contract. You need a driver's license and a reliable vehicle. Adults say no to teen sex because we know how stupid it is and how it hurts the rest of your life.

Go back to hanging about at the mall or movies with the girls, doing homework, being involved with friends. You aren't an adult do can't have adukt relationships. If you try to be the serious girlfriend at this age, you are going to pay a very high price.

Move on. You're only in grade 9, do you really want to be stuck with a lying cheating boyfriend, that also has a baby? No matter what this ex is always going to be in his life, because they now have a child.

He's not worth it.

Leave this boy alone. He lies cheats and is now going to be a father. In 9th grade you don't need this.

You say he doesn't go to school? How old is he? How old is his former girlfriend?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

You say he doesn't go to school? How old is he? How old is his former girlfriend?

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His 20 and am 15 his ex is 23 I love him I can't leave him its hard

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He did it because he could. Yes, he lied to you. Move on without him. He's going to be busy for the next 18+ years.

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Am 15 yrs and his 20 I love him I can't move on and we still dating

First, Do your parents know you are dating him? If not, he could be in legal trouble. If you are sexually active with him, that would, in most places, be illegal.

A 20 yr old has no business dating a 15 yr old. And a 15 yr old doesn't really know about love. You feel you love him (and those feelings seem very real to you) because he is paying attention to you.

Do you know for a fact that his ex is 23? I suspect she is younger than that and that this guy is pedophile preying on underage girls.

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Am 15 yrs and his 20 I love him I can't jst move on and we still dating

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You are going to have to put on your big-girl pants and do the best thing for yourself now. And you know what that is, don't you.

Please don't allow yourself to be a helpless fool and emotionally abused. That will then become a trap you will fall into again and again in future romantic relationships. And allowing yourself to be emotionally abused too often leads into allowing physical abuse -- all because "I love him."

This is a predatory relationship. You may be mature for your age, or feel you are unique and different from every other very young teenager dating a grown man, but the reality is that you can't rush life experience and emotional development and you are not by any stretch of any imagination ready for a relationship with a 20 year old man.

As for the guy, those of us who have been 20 know how totally inappropriate we, and all of our friends, relations, colleagues, classmates, etc. who are in that age group would consider it to be to date even an older teenager. He's a pedophile and you are way over your head. Tell your parents and they will help you through this situation. It is not a relationship, it is a predatory situation with you as the victim of a grown man.

At 20, this guy has no business dating you. Do your parents know you are dating a 20 year old. You may think you love him but you don't and he has already shown you the kind of person he is. You are too young to be dealing with adult baby momma drama.

My boyfriend is friendly wth the girl made our relationship mizerable and the girl is pregnand wth his bby now I feel like am not loved anymore because they call each other even if am there

You need to dump him as fast as possible and forget he exists.

Why confused? You aren't part of his life any more. He has a baby mama and a child on the way. Move forward without him.

If I can make sense out of what you wrote, it seems that he has cheated on you, got someone else pregnant, and now you feel like you are being left out?

Why are you still with him?

EDIT- Are you kidding me? This is all part of this question here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...do-770391.html

What, exactly, don't you get about this?

Tell your mom and dad how this 20 year old man, cheater, about to be a dad, is treating their 15 year old daughter. You won't have to worry about it anymore, they'll make the decision for you. Maybe he'll get to see his baby when he's in jail for rape.