I met my boyfriend after he was separated, but not yet divorced from, his wife. She has told their children that I broke up their marriage (I didn't even know him until she had kicked him out and he was living in a different town). Additionally, she has threatened on numerous occasions to come to my house, tell my children how "evil" I am and call my employer. I am a professional and cannot have this kind of drama in the workplace. Plus I fear for my children's safety with her threatening to come to my house - I work and my 13 year old daughter may be home alone. What can I do?

You could stop seeing him.
You could get an attorney and have him write a letter to stop the harassment.
You could talk to your boyfriend and have him talk to her.

Because she is a mother and most probably wants to stay a mother her threats are probably meaningless. Any issues preventing you from mentioning this to your employer so they are not shocked or surprised if she were to call them?

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

You could stop seeing him.
You could get an attorney and have him write a letter to stop the harrassment.
You could talk to your boyfriend and have him talk to her.

Because she is a mother and most probably wants to stay a mother her threats are probably meaningless. Any issues preventing you from mentioning this to your employer so they are not shocked or surprised if she were to call them?

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He has spoken to her and it only intensified her actions. I believe that, based on her actions and words that she has diminished mental capacity (for example she called and left vulgar and threatening messages 14 times between 12:20 and 1:10 in the morning the other day).

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Originally Posted by runstrong

He has spoken to her and it only intensified her actions. I believe that, based on her actions and words that she has diminished mental capacity (for example she called and left vulgar and threatening messages 14 times between 12:20 and 1:10 in the morning the other day).

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That is harassment. I would get an attorney and file a restraining order. You don't need that drama in your life. Is he worth all the drama? When I look for a partner one of the criteria is no drama.