My boyfriend and I had dated for 2 years when he decided to break up with me. We had never broken up before which is why I think I'm taking it so hard. One morning I went to his house instead of going to class but he didn't like that. His reason was that he has trouble sleeping at night and in the morning is the only chance he has to get some rest. He ignored me while I was there and got dressed for his day. I asked him where he was going but refused to tell me so I got mad. He tells me I need to go to class because he has stuff to do. I follow him to his car and he's pulling away while I'm holding on to the door handle. He finally lets me in and yells at me to go to class. We get in a huge fight and I leave crying. The whole day I'm texting him asking him why he's being such an *** to me. All he says was to leave him alone. I guess after so many messages he explodes and says he's done. He ignores me the rest of the day.

The next morning I go take him breakfast at his work to hopefully make up for what had happened. He tells me to leave and he'll come to my house after work to talk. He comes over and basically tells me he isn't happy anymore and he needs some space. I take it very hard and convince him we should give it one last try. He says he can't do that, we gave it a shot and it failed. I had to go to work so I felt like we didn't get to talk about it much. While at work my mom texts me and tells me he went over to their house to tell them he broke up with me because he wanted to go back to college focus on work and have alone time. The next day I keep texting him telling him I love him and I miss him but all he says is to get over him and I'll find someone else. It's been a week and I haven't texted him at all. But yesterday I texted him a long paragraph saying that I loved him and I missed him. But he didn't text back. He's been talking to all these girls now and acting like if I don't even exist. He still has our pictures on Instagram and Facebook. It still says we're in a relationship on Facebook.

I am so confused and I have no idea what to do. I really want my boyfriend back /: today would be our 25 months together, should I text him? Also his birthday is next week and I bought him a $200 paintball gun and $100 g-shock. Should I return them? Should I also congratulate him on his birthday? Please help. I don't want to move on. I know he loves me and I love him.

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My boyfriend and I had dated for 2 years when he decided to break up with me. We had never broken up before which is why I think I'm taking it so hard. One morning I went to his house instead of going to class but he didn't like that. His reason was that he has trouble sleeping at night and in the morning is the only chance he has to get some rest. He ignored me while I was there and got dressed for his day. I asked him where he was going but refused to tell me so I got mad. He tells me I need to go to class because he has stuff to do. I follow him to his car and he's pulling away while I'm holding on to the door handle. He finally lets me in and yells at me to go to class. We get in a huge fight and I leave crying. The whole day I'm texting him asking him why he's being such an to me. All he says was to leave him alone. I guess after so many messages he explodes and says he's done. He ignores me the rest of the day. The next morning I go take him breakfast at his work to hopefully make up for what had happened. He tells me to leave and he'll come to my house after work to talk. He comes over and basically tells me he isn't happy anymore and he needs some space. I take it very hard and convince him we should give it one last try. He says he can't do that, we gave it a shot and it failed. I had to go to work so I felt like we didn't get to talk about it much. While at work my mom texts me and tells me he went over to their house to tell them he broke up with me because he wanted to go back to college focus on work and have alone time. The next day I keep texting him telling him I love him and I miss him but all he says is to get over him and I'll find someone else. It's been a week and I haven't texted him at all. But yesterday I texted him a long paragraph saying that I loved him and I missed him. But he didn't text back. He's been talking to all these girls now and acting like if I don't even exist. He still has our pictures on Instagram and Facebook. & it still says were in a relationship on Facebook. I am so confused and I have no idea what to do. I really want my boyfriend back /: today would be our 25 months together, should I text him? Also his birthday is next week and I bought him a $200 paintball gun and $100 g-shock. Should I return them? Should I also congratulate him on his birthday? Please help. I don't want to move on. I know he loves me and I love him.

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This will be rather harsh.

Get a hold of your emotions and start thinking about what you are doing. You are acting like an obsessed stalker.

I really do not know where to start. I am trying to figure out what he has to do to get you to pay attention and listen to what he says and needs. He already told you to give him some space. You sat in his home and didn't leave. He told you to go to class. You demanded his attention. You get in a fight presumably over your smothering him. You finally leave and then text him all day even as he is saying to back off. He breaks up with you. Do you take the hint? No. You take him breakfast at his work. He finally gets you out of his workplace. He comes over to your place to finalize the break-up. He says he can't be involved with you and doesn't want to try. He even tells your parents it is over. You still contact him. He is now ignoring you. You still don't get the message. I am literally shaking my head wondering what will get through to you.

You need to look at going No Contact. This is for you to learn how to let go and give yourself space and time to heal. It is not a way to get him back. It is a way to get yourself back. I think you have lost sight of learning how to be an individual. Too much of your emotions and thoughts seem to be wrapped up in him and I think he realizes it even if you don't. Recognizing an anniversary such as two years together is normal. Marking 25 months is not.

No Contact is just that, No Contact. Delete his phone numbers, email address, twitter, etc. Unfriend/follow him on any social networking sites. Do not ask mutual friends for updates on how he is doing. No birthday cards, presents or wishes. Stop putting energy into being with him.

Start putting energy into your relationship with yourself. Go out with friends. Get involved in activities that help you feel good about yourself. Keep your mind and body active. Let yourself accept that his needs are different from yours, let go and heal. Move forward with your own life and take the lessons you have learned with you.

I know it isn't easy and it will hurt. But you will survive and you will find someone else someday when you are stronger and ready. Give yourself support to move forward.

Good luck.

Wow! The poor guy was practically begging you to leave him alone, and you wouldn't. You even grabbed on to his car as he tried to escape, since you wouldn't take the hint and leave.

He's doing no contact, which is the smart thing to do when you break up with someone, especially someone that won't leave you alone.

It's over. He's acting like you don't exist because he's done with the relationship, it's over, and he's making sure you understand that. It's time to accept it.

Don't text him, don't call him, return the gifts you bought, and try to focus on getting over him. This relationship can't be saved.

Stop being the ex psycho girl friend who makes a pest and fool of herself. You are way out of control.

I see no way, if I ever had a girl behave like that, I may even get a restraning order on her.

If he asked you to leave, you should have just left. OK, he should have been glad to see you, but he wasn't, after that, he wanted you gone, away and you would not take no for an answer.

If you have been like this for a while, most likely he has been planning a break up for a while.

Facebook, get over it, most likelyhe has just forgotten to change his status, Facebook means nothing,

Go to NO CONTACT, don't call, don't text, don't email, leave this poor man alone