Hi guys, I'm just posting on here today for a little guidance and help concerning my first relationship. (I'm a guy 21 days off turning 16 if that's important).


Ok so I'll give you the full story. About two months ago this girl started having feelings for me after I invited her to hangout as a friend. It was pretty obvious to me from the way she acted that she had feelings and so I invited her out a few more times to get to know her.

Anyway after about half of a month of this I was about to ask her out (I too had developed some sort of feelings) but a few days prior I had began to doubt my feelings so I ended up calling it off and more or less ignoring her (sounds worse than it actually was) :).

So from the months after that I had started to feel a little guilty and I had developed a little crush on her again, currently we're on school holidays here in Australia so I had some free time and invited her out to talk.

I explained to her my predicament dilemma and she was very understanding, one thing lead to another and a few days later I invited her to my place. I took her out to the shops bought us both drinks and we came back to my place where somehow I ended up having my first kiss and making out with her on my bed.

During it just felt so sexy and well... right and afterward I was just in a daze so elated with my life, during our little experience we decided to that we were now together.

Ok so all was well in the world of Ross but now 4 days later my feelings have kind of changed.

I was at her house today, I met her mum and we cuddled on the couch watching a movie. About halfway through we started getting close and it turned into full on making out (personal tongue kissing record) and I started to pull of some intimate touching. I felt OK I guess.

Ok so now it's a few hours later I'm sitting here at my desk feeling well just kind of bland. When I think about other girls I don't have feelings for anyone else but I just don't know if I have feelings for my girlfriend either.

Tl;dr: if you've stuck with me this long you're a god, I'm just looking for anyone who can give me some advice or just someone who can relate to my situation- thanks guys - Ross

Young people get caught up in hormone driven lust all the time and few can resist the opportunity to satisfy those feelings. You both are probably caught up in it, and focus it on each other.

I mean who can resist the chance for romance and sharing and hanging out. Its new, intense, and thrilling while its happening. But its subject to change over time, especially if the opportunity for other romantic adventure happens more intensely than this one.

Stay honest, and go with the flow keeps it real, and don't get overly carried away by these new feelings. Talk to each other, and don't lie. Even if HER feelings change for YOU after a while. They probably will. Then the shoe is on the other foot with the doubts, and changing feelings. Remember this is but your first relationship at a young age, and all things can change quickly, and you have to make some adjustments along the way to deal with those changes.

Go slow as you find your way through this new time in your life.

Thanks that really helps, I think I'm going to stay in the relationship for a while, the fact I'm no quite sure about my feelings dose not really bother me, she has really strong feelings for me and it makes me feel good making her happy, thanks for the advice man.