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Friendship Problems

Me and my friends are having some friendship problems. We are a group of 4 and one of them just came to the school this year so we became friends with her. But since the new girl came, my other 2 friends (lets just call them 'friend A' and 'friend B') all want her so much for themselves since she's a new friend. So friend A is like, oh friend be just wants to be with the new girl! She's always talking to her and not to us! And friend B is like, oh friend A just wants to be with the new girl! She's always talking her and not to us!
So, I told friend A that friend B said the same thing and I told friend B that friend A said the same thing. So apparently, friend A tells friend B that I told her that she just wants to be with the new girl and friend B tells friend A that I'm lying and that she never said that!! She's the one who's lying! She said it herself! So now friend A tells me while texting what friend B said to her and says that she said I lied when I lied about nothing! I told friend A the truth but I don't know who friend A believes, either me or friend B. I hope she believes me because I wasn't even lying.

WHAT DO I DO AT SCHOOL TOMORROW? I'm worried that all my friends are mad at me! :( :(

You may have not been lying but you had no right to tell one person what another said, then go and tell the other person. What was your intention? That is a sure trouble starter. Go to school text the girls and apologize. Hopefully they will get over it soon. Next time keep your mouth shut. If someone wants someone to know something, they will tell them themselves.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You may have not been lying but you had no right to tell one person what another said, then go and tell the other person. What was your intention? That is a sure trouble starter. Go to school text the girls and apologize. Hopefully they will get over it soon. Next time keep your mouth shut. if someone wants someone to know something, they will tell them themselves.

I'm just worried that they'll be mad at me I'm not sure who friend A believes, I'm not sure why friend B had to lie and say that she never said the things that she said right out of her own mouth I mean she's the one who's lying.
So maybe I will remind friend B the day she said the thing and I will apologize to them and have a good school year?

Care to tell me who Narroway29 is?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Care to tell me who Narroway29 is?

That's my brother. He just told me a while ago he copy and pasted my question and made a new account and posted the same thing which is what he told me and I asked him the username he used and he said narroway29 and I asked him why he did that he said he wanted to help me get more answers. I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do though

No, it's not the right thing to do. Duplicate questions will be removed.

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No, it's not the right thing to do. Duplicate questions will be removed.

Ok I'll tell him that.

Sorry about the double questions

I think you worry too much. You must be fairly young.

Go to school, tell them you're sorry, and move on. If they are mad, then they're mad. They will get over it and all will be OK.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

I think you worry too much. You must be fairly young.

Go to school, tell them you're sorry, and move on. If they are mad, then they're mad. They will get over it and all will be ok.

I do worry a lot about friendship. I fear of losing friends and I don't want to lose friends by this.

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Originally Posted by bigblitz74

I'm just worried that they'll be mad at me I'm not sure who friend A believes, I'm not sure why friend B had to lie and say that she never said the things that she said right out of her own mouth I mean shes the one whos lying.
So maybe I will remind friend B the day she said the thing and I will apologize to them and have a good school year?

It does not matter. You had no right to tell either of them anything.
Apologize and forget about it.

That sounds a bit like me I guess! I use to have 3 best friend one being the new girl (let's call her Bi and the other Amy and Danie) and all.. after a while I felt unloved and cast aside by Bi because she was always around Danie more than Amy and I.. But it didn't get worse because Bi was in a different class, so we became close friends, the 4 of us, we would always go to places and do things together. After a year bi moved school, but we were still in contact with her. Now just the 3 of us left.. it was weird because Amy and I were closer to each other than Danie and I and sometimes it was awkward paring up because we didn't want the other one to feel hurt. By the way amy and I were close because we have been friends for 2 years and that we already experience the fight and all that so we became close. So I think it was nearly the end of last year that amy and I had a big fight and I felt like she didn't appreciate our friendship at all, so I stopped talking to her and pretended she wasn't there.. I didn't try to fix the friendship because I felt that it was going to reoccur again so I just left it... up until now we still haven't talked to each other and I ave gotten closer to Danie.. but sometimes I wish I wasn't stubborn and fix it because now Danie is stuck between the two of us and I felt bad that she has to be in our situation.. I'm telling you this because it's better to fix things up fast than leave it.

This sounds like middle school stuff. Apologize and move on, and it will something else down the road. It's all a part of growing up and learning how to deal with people and situations. Just don't do he said/she said stuff whether it's true or not. It is not your place to do that. It's gossiping and it's ugly.