My boyfriend is not talking to me.. 20 days before we had a big quarrel... where.. he got frustrated and he told me not to call him... initially also we were fighting many times... but we haven't stayed very long... max was 10 days... but now 20 days have passed... neither he called nor I called...
Previously when we used to have a fight I was the first.. to call him... not one time but several times... he seems to be very occupied with his work... nowdays... and I know he has some ego problems... he thinks why should I go first... let her come...
I have strongly decided not to go first now... let him wantme... sometimes I feel that I only love him he does not want me... we have an affair from 5 years
Am I right... shall I go ahead... wat do you suggest??

Not talking for 10 or 20 days after a fight is very, very childish. People who love each other need to communicate, not play games about who will call first. I would have serious concerns as to whether this relationship is one built of love, respect and maturity. Perhaps it's time to let it go and move on.

Didi

Did you say affair as in one of you is married??

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Hi there... how are you??

I personally think you two are better off without each other. Neither one of you show enough maturity to handle conflict. It takes honest, open, true comunication in order for a relationship to thrive. I do not see any of that in your post.

You say the following, "we have an affair from 5 years" What exacltly do you mean by that? Do you mean that you have been in the relationship for five years, or that both of you have had other affairs in the five years or do you mean, as Tal suggested, that one of you is married and is having the current affair with the other?

Which ever way it is, you and this partner of yours need to take some time to evaluate what exactly you want from a relationship and also what exaclt you are going to offer someone who enters in a relationship with you. You can no more expect anything from someone that you, yourself, are not willing and able to offer in return. That goes for both of you.

Always fighting gets you no where. What in the world can you fight about that much?

You may not like this answer and you may disagree, but cut your loses here and get your own head straight before entering into another relationship.