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  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:16 PM
    jac4444
    child abandonment or what
    I have have residential custody of my 13 yr old daughter in state of Ohio. My daughter's mom has not seen her in almost a yr. For the first 4 monthsof this yr I would go to our meeting place no show and no call. She pays child support and once every 6 she will send her daughter I one sentence. On Facebook And it is it. My daughter has called 2x's to let her mom know she was flying to grandparents out of state. Simply put the mom does not care and those two calls she told her daughter she should get mother of yr. I have had residential custudy of my daughter 2 yrs she has been at her moms 4xs 8days and has called her for a total of 35 minutes.I was wondering if I could go for abandonment and full custody or what. This residential custody is bs. I want full custody so I don't have to deal with a hunk of junk. What could my options be without a lawyer.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:32 PM
    N0help4u
    Sounds like you already have full custody in a sense. Also if you were able to do what you are asking the mother would no longer be required to pay child support.
    What do you want to accomplish by doing away with her rights?
    No more calls from her? No more one sentences on Facebook?
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:36 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    What do you want to accomplish by doing away with her rights?
    I don't see where the OP asked about termination of rights.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:41 PM
    N0help4u
    Anytime I have seen anyone wanting to go for abandonment it was to do away with rights
    So what is it the OP wishes to accomplish by going after her for abandonment?
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:51 PM
    J_9
    The OP wants full physical and legal custody.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:56 PM
    ScottGem
    You can try to get visitation suspended. Hard to say whether a court will go along or not.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:57 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Child abandonment or what

    .I was wondering if I could go for abandonment and full custody
    They mention abandonment twice and I was wondering what they want to accomplish
    As far as the mothers rights.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:57 PM
    jac4444
    It is more of getting full custody and not having to worry about any contempt charges. For 4 month I would meet at our dropping off point she would not show.I said the hell with it and quit showing up. I want the freedom of knowing hey I can do anything with my daughter and go out of country. How ever she won't sign for a passport. The is old about worrying about contempt charges. My daughter wants nothing to do with her. In Ohio residential shared parenting means equal time. Full custody is up to the residential parent.
    We have shared.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 06:59 PM
    J_9
    All you can do at this point is go back to court for a modification of custody.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:01 PM
    N0help4u
    Residential shared parenting means equal time. That is what I was getting at is she doesn't seem to use her time anyway. But I see your point about her no shows and contempt charges.
    Sounds like you do need to go for full custody. At the very least you do want to do something along the lines Scott suggested.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:03 PM
    jac4444
    Yeah that is what I was thinking. I was hoping abandonment would add pressure of getting full custody easier. She is a hard and works for the jail system for the county where our case is.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:07 PM
    N0help4u
    You don't want to ''file for abandonment'' or termination of rights, you want to use that as a reason for going for full custody.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:07 PM
    jac4444
    I was thinking with abandonment charges could make it is easier for full custody. My wife would adopt my daughter without hesitation
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:10 PM
    J_9
    I understand what you are trying to say, but you don't want abandonment "charges." You want to use abandonment as a reason to obtain legal and physical custody.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:11 PM
    N0help4u
    Yes you can do that (go for full and have your wife adopt) but there would be steps to take, and as I said mom would no longer be responsible for child support.
    Looks like in Ohio you can file abandonment
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    Ohio Law

    In Ohio, a child is considered abandoned if the parents have failed to visit or contact the child for 90 days, even if they make an attempt to contact the child after that time. A child is defined as any individual under the age of 18. In Ohio, an abandoned child is categorized as a neglected child.


    Read more: What Is Considered Child Abandonment in Ohio? | eHow

    Looks like that is for both parents so not sure if it would work in your case.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:13 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    In Ohio, an abandoned child is categorized as a neglected child.
    This child is not neglected. She is being taken care of by her father.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:18 PM
    N0help4u
    That's why I said it may not apply for him
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post

    Looks like that is for both parents so not sure if it would work in your case.

  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:20 PM
    jac4444
    Yeah that is what I thought. Thanks for all the fast responses. The kicker is my exwife boyfriend has 2 kids by her as well and he is filing for full custody. Thanks again for the responses and other responses are welcomed... ha e a great evening
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:22 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    abandonment charges
    Indicates that you are going to have her charged and arrested for abandoning your child. That is not your case.

    You are trying to do the right thing, but using the wrong terminology.
  • Sep 24, 2013, 07:23 PM
    jac4444
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Thats why I said it may not apply for him

    Yeah it is an all or none deal. My daughter is a 3.8 gpa in school in a few extra activities now. She is in a stable environment now as happy as can be. And that is why she does not want to go to her mom's.

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