Basically this is about a guy I have become to really like that I want to know how to get him to like me back & to get him to want me after we have sex for the first time...

We have always been friends but last weekend we were at a party at his house and when everyone left & I was about to he ask me to stay because he wanted to cuddle me... We cuddled for about an hour and he tickled my back and kissed my forehead then he kissed my lips & I kissed him back... He started rubbing my leg and I was enjoying it but then I freaked out and told him I was on my period so we couldn't do anything & I told him I better get home so he walked me to the door and asked me for one more kiss... The reason I freaked out was he has had sex with lots (about 10 girls and he doesn't have an diseases) & I have only slept with 1 guy and I don't want to be lame in the bedroom... He text me the next day saying I left my shoes there so I went around to get it & he went for a kiss but his room mate walked in so he pulled away & I left... He later text me again and said come and see me I want you... I said I would tomorrow and now in Freaking out because I really want to have sex with him but I want it to be unforgettable to him like I want him to want me after it I don't want to get in the bedroom and suck at having sex :( I really like this guy and I get feelings he likes me to but I need some tips to make it a good experience for him like tips on blow jobs and just sex in general I want to get on top and know what I'm doing and please him I don't want to be on the bottom being boring (I know he enjoys wild sex as a friend of mine dates his best friend & he's told them he love crazy sex)

I think this is too much of a hand full for you, cause don't know how old you are and quite frankly you sound a tad immature for the situation you want to be in. He do you know for sure he hasn't got STDs? He does sleep around. I would want to see a health certificate before jumping into bed with someone like that. No, wait a minute, I would not jump into bed with a player, which he sounds like?

May I ask how old you are?

We are not going to give you explicit tips on what to do to or with him.

If you are wanting to be more than a 'conquest', then it sounds like you are not ready for what he seems to have in mind. He is looking for a playmate for a night not a date for next week.

You build a relationship before you jump into the sack not after. Great sex is not going to make him want more than another go-round and it will not set you apart from the other females willing to play games with him. It will only make you another member of the club.

Unforgettable to a guy that is a player. Your living in fantasy land.
No matter how unforgettable you think you were to him, you are going to end up
With his behavior being nothing more than "NEXT'', then you will have to wait for the
Revolving door to get back to you. IF he even bothers coming back for more.
Sex never makes a relationship work.
Have more self respect for yourself. Find some dignity. Why do you want to end up as
Nothing more than his sloppy second booty call? Which in all reality is all you are going to get.

Speaking as a guy... nearly every women is unforgettible... because every one is unique... I'm 52... I can remember every single one even if I can't remember each of their names.

But what makes a guy want to come back isn't how good you are in bed (though being really bad can keep him away) but what you do outside of the bed...

I mean you have to talk with each other the rest of the time after all... you won't keep him around long just by sleeping with him. Maybe a bit longer for the player than the average guy.

And also understand... no matter how nice you are outside the bedroom... if your personalities don't "click" for both of you... then its just not going to happen.

Meaning you can put two really nice people together... and if the chemnistry isn't there... nothings going to happen.

I'm 20 and he is 22.. We are such good friends now and we talk often I just don't want to get into bed and suck at it so then it wrecks our friendship... He only sleeps with one girl at a time for long periods like 5/6 months... I just want things to work out with us.. I'm too scared to text him first because I don't want to come across as annoying I just want him to chase me instead of me chasing him... How can I achieve this ?

You don't... you wait and see if it happens. Otherwise you are chasing him. Also keep in mind... just because you were good friends doesn't mean you will be a good boyfriend /girlfriend... in fact you might lose it all trying to take it to the next level... because sleeping with someone changes everything... permanently.

He is the one who wants to take it to the next level.. We have been texting like were pretty much dating & by having sex it's going to seal the deal

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He only sleeps with one girl at a time for long periods like 5/6 months

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I just choked on my soup! 5-6 months is NOT a long period.

You will end up just another notch on his bedpost and heartbroken.

Keep it friendly and forget the sex.

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Originally Posted by Kamax

He is the one who wants to take it to the next level.. We have been texting like were pretty much dating & by having sex it's going to seal the deal

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You have a lot to learn. Sex seals no deal. Sex can't even fix marriage problems.
Couples argue. Make up. Have their great make up sex. Days, weeks, months later the same problem they decided was over because 'they had great sex' raises its ugly head and guess what... YOU realize he has this problem because he doesn't give two hoots about what a girl wants, he has deep underlying issues, whatever... Then you realize you can't fix him... IF he even bothered to keep you around that long!

That is why there are so many relationships that only last 5-6 months, people don't get to know each other before they decide they got to have their eye candy.
If you don't really get to know a guy, then you find out he blows up when he feels pressured, he has bi-polar, etc... next thing you know you are wondering what you got yourself into... but you won't care because even though he treats you wrong... you love him. Yet he dumps you for the next one. He isn't caring about your love. Go sit in the waiting room of family court and you will see what I am saying. If you really want to be a keeper you let this friendship grow, you get to know everything about him, his likes, dislikes, his goals, etc. then you might have a better chance with him. So many guys talk about all the girls they got, but then they say they meet 'the one' and the thing that is different about the one is that they weren't trying to jump in the bed with them.

You know how to keep him interested? DON'T have sex with him -- and continue to be his friend.

Once you have sex with him, you will be out the door and he will be looking for the next booty call.

I remember what a player said to me once -- "If you have sex with me, you will be number 19!!!!" I decided not to be number 19.

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Originally Posted by Kamax

He is the one who wants to take it to the next level.. We have been texting like were pretty much dating & by having sex it's going to seal the deal

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How long have you known him?

Next level is going out to a movie and/or dinner. It is having a date not just staying at his place after all his other guests have gone home or going back to get something you left and falling into his bed.

If you want a relationship, be honest with him. Do not play games about being ready for bed buddy games when you aren't and then trying to manipulate him into keeping you for longer than six months.

Are you on birth control? Have you discussed using condoms with him? What would happen if an accident did occur? That is what an experienced woman should care about.