Ask Me Help Desk - Is it okay to love the same sex?

Is it okay to love the same sex?

Okay I'm in like in love with this girl, it started as a crush with adoration but became more than that. I can't stare at her in the eyes, I blush when she laughs at my jokes, I get butterflies when were alone,I have ING BUTTERFLIES!! And I worry about her and it's rare for me to worry not that I don't care for the well being of my friends but I don't worry. Im really a nice girl, average score, loves sports can actually consider boyish a my grade 4-6th but now nobody can even tell that I used to be now with a fabulous make over but I'm not a flirty person I understand person more than should be and I curse for being one (sorry going off topic)... I'm a Chatolic person so being in love with the same sex is going against my own religion and for me maybe she won't like me back seeing as she interested in boys and It hurts but I want others opinion is it okay to love the same sex?

Is it OK, that depends on your world view and your ideas of morals. To many in the world it is fine, great, no problem. To others it is wrong.. this is a personal choice you have to make.

And I assume you mean Catholic?

But also how old are you ? Many pre teen or teens get confused about their sexual feelings,

Be careful labeling yourself. Society will have plenty of labels for you, so don't get drawn into that. Remember if you are straight you are not only straight but so much more that makes up you. You could be an excellent friend, athlete, daughter, etc. Same thing goes for if you determine at some point that you are gay. Gay won't be the only thing you are. In fact being gay will only be a small part of what you are. So stay away from labels.

Give yourself some time to work through this. You don't have to decide today whether you are straight or gay. You don't have to decide this year. Take it slow and work through it.

How old are you? It is not unusual to have a crush on someone of the same sex when you are young. You are you who you are.

I'm 14 I'm turning 15 this November

I'm 14 but as I say I'm really an understanding person with others and with myself but less appreciative about it

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Originally Posted by KyutsuDanny

i'm 14 but as i say i'm really an understanding person with others and with myself but less appreciative about it

Not sure what you are saying here but at your age this is nothing to be concerned about. But if you are gay, it is what it is. Is this the only girl you have felt this way about?
Love is a strong word. Do you have any relationship at all with this girl? There may be a crush there but love is a strong word to use.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Not sure what you are saying here but at your age this is nothing to be concerned about. But if you are gay, it is what it is. Is this the only girl you have felt this way about?
Love is a strong word. Do you have any relationship at all with this girl? There may be a crush there but love is a strong word to use.

I know it might sound like puppy love but in 4 years that I have been feeling like this. I hope it is just a crush I want to hate her so much I want to scream "PLEASE STOP PLAYING WITH MY HEART!!!" but as I try to avoid her she tries to make me more in love with her maybe I should say the feeling I have for her is complicated... I guess?? I'm really contented with just holding hands or just making her laugh and maybe just hanging out I'm okay with it all I don't really have to do something that might make this more awkward between us if I fall I fall honestly I don't second guess my feeling if this was a crush I wouldn't be thinking about her in the last 3 years I just want to make my presence visible to her with that I'm contented but it pangs me directly to the heart to think that all I'll ever be is a classmate-friend relationship but I'll guess I'll find someone else that can accept me

She's not playng with your heart you're doing this to yourself. How old is this girl? If you know she likes boys, stop all the hand holding and hang out with other people.

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Originally Posted by hunkyman

fallow your true sexuall needs

Are you aware that you are telling a 14 year old to follow her sexual needs?

You know it's easier said than done, yes I'm contented with just friends but she's making it hard. When I'm almost all over her she comes and bring me back to zero and I hate it but can't do anything about it

And she's 14 but I'm older than her
And I do hang out with others it's just in rare occasion that I hang out with her but we stare with each other a lot

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Are you aware that you are telling a 14 year old to follow her sexual needs?

Hahahahaha... that made me laugh

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Originally Posted by KyutsuDanny

you know it's easier said than done, yes i'm contented with just friends but she's making it hard. When i'm almost all over her she comes and bring me back to zero and i hate it but can't do anything about it

and she's 14 but i'm older than her
and i do hang out with others it's just in rare occasion that i hang out with her but we stare with each other a lot

You can do something about it. If she is your long time good friend, you can talk to her about what you are feeling. She will either leave you alone or understand.

Hehehehehehe that last post where follow your sexual need made me crack... I'm really thankful for advice and I appreciate that you kept you time with me and I just want to confirm if it's okay with being gay and everything cause in here they don't really take that lightly and I haven't really told anyone yet that I am gay cause I think they won't understand but thanks anyway... :)

You are who you are. It is Ok don't let anyone tell you otherwise.