Hi,I'm 20 years old and I'm married for just over a year.I seem to have a problem falling pregnant though.My husband and I are very sexually active but however I cannot orgasm when he has penetrated me, he has to help me orgasm before we start having sex(by using other means)thereafter he penetrates me and then he orgasms.My question here is does this effect us in any way from falling pregnant?is it important for me to orgasm while he is inside?please let me know soon as we are helpless in trying to fall pregnant.Thank you

Whether you orgasm or not has nothing to do with getting pregnant.

Some people try for years before they get pregnant... others happen by accident. Everyone is different.

I heard a study years ago that the more you try the less likely it is you will get pregnant and if you try less its more likely to happen.

Odinn is correct -- orgasm (by you) has nothing to do with your getting pregnant or not. It took me three years to get pregnant, and it turned out my husband had a fertility problem that then got fixed (he took hot baths and wore tight underwear that majorly slowed down sperm activity).

Stress and over-thinking getting pregnant are not good. Relax, just have fun with sex and with your partner (even out of bed).

The tight underwear also was in the study I read.

First I agree with previous answers that it is not even necessary for you to orgasm while he is penetrated to become pregnant. Second, It is completely normal that a woman can not orgasm when penetrated and in need (desire) of other means of getting there, before during or after the time of the husbands orgasm with or without penetration, so be free and relaxation will overcome any inhibitions and assist you both with your desire to become pregnant. And next, my knowledge tells me that your best time for meeting of the sperm and your egg will be from day 7-10 after the first day of your menstrual cycle. And be mindful of the journey it must take it by placing a pillow under your lower half to raise it up higher if possible so that gravity may assist those traveling sperm cells ending in implantation hopefully. Good luck. 1 year is not long enough time to become concerned yet with no prior knowledge of family history of fertility related occurrences.

You are not having trouble falling pregnant - you wrote in a previous post in March that you had a miscarriage.
From a quick look at all your questions in the last year, it seems clear that you worry a lot. I hope that you (and your husband! ) can slow down. Worry isn't helping at all.
You might even be having too much sex. Save it for mid-cycle, and buy an ovulation thermometer to see the best times - your temp goes up a very tiny bit when you ovulate.
One miscarriage tells you nothing about future pregnancies. They are common, but there's no way to know which women will have just one, or two, or three, or keep having them.
Unless you are very rich, it's too soon to be tested for anything.

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Odinn is correct -- orgasm (by you) has nothing to do with your getting pregnant or not. It took me three years to get pregnant, and it turned out my husband had a fertility problem that then got fixed (he took hot baths and wore tight underwear that majorly slowed down sperm activity).

Stress and over-thinking getting pregnant are not good. Relax, just have fun with sex and with your partner (even out of bed).

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Thank you so much for your reply, I really feel so much better however in those three years that you waited I'm sure you must have been anxious and disappointed and not forgetting scared.That's how I feel right now.its quite difficult to live with not being able to fall pregnant for such a long time.. and there's no history of infertility in my family either.. At All..

Actually, my colleagues are incorrect on the orgasm thing. A female orgasm does aid in pregnancy. The reason is that the vaginal canal pulsates during orgasm, aiding in helping to move the sperm to it's desired target. The egg.

With that said, an orgasm isn't necessary for pregnancy to occur, it's just a little helpful.

Many women feel that it is their fault when they don't become pregnant, however, men can be infertile as well. Has very little to do with family history.

The average healthy couple takes a year or more of actively trying before conception occurs. I know, sounds silly when so many teens get pregnant on their first encounter, right? Well, there are hormones caused by stress that can actually prevent pregnancy in a healthy couple. This is why teens that AREN'T trying get pregnant so easily.

While some people say "stop trying," that doesn't always work. It's best to have a preconception workup done prior to getting pregnant to make sure both you and your husband are healthy in that area.