She broke up with me 5months ago because she wanted pace and she was confused on want she wanted, and wanted to be 100% sure that she wanted to be with me. I was heart broken pretty bad and still am. She found out that I had messed around with a girl who bartends at my brother's bar. She found out by logging in to my Facebook and saw that andother girls that iI had conversations with. I wish I wouldn't of changed my password when we broke up but didn't think she would do that cause she broke up with me. Now I think she is using this as an excuse. She moved to Dallas when she got accepted into a grad program in June. I finished my bachelor's in August and came back home to Dallas because my living situation in san Antonio after we broke up sucked. I was super depressed so I came back home, and not because she is here but cause this is where I grew up and my parents live here. I really want this girl back but just don't what to do now that she found out things I did. Please help

You pretty much asked this same thing back in August.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ck-762114.html

You just have to let her go for your own good. She wanted "space" so what you did during that time is not her business. She logged into your Facebook account, which was wrong to do, and then she is holding that against you.

Want to know what I think? She was done with you anyway. Usually "space" means it's over. She was just spying on you and now is using this as the excuse because it's easier for her to do so.

Let her go... save yourself. She isn't as great as you have made her out to be in your head. She broke up with you, move on.

There's really nothing we can do to help you get her back.

She broke up with you. You can't force someone to take you back. You can't force someone to love you. It doesn't sound like she's interested in re-starting a relationship with you, it didn't work out so well the first time.

You need to move on, get the idea that you can get her back, out of your head. It's not likely to happen.

Yea I know I asked the same question. Just can't stop thinking about it. We still stay in touch every now and then. We talked about it and she tells me if it meant to be it will be. She never says its over for sure, and I think that's what's messing me up. She also told me that she was so close to call me , but when she found out about this stuff it changed her mind and I think that's messing me up as well, even though its bs. It also doesn't help that I dream about her all the time and really don't have people to talk to about this, so I re posted the same thing from back in August

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Yea I know I asked the same question. Just can't stop thinking about it. We still stay in touch every now and then. We talked about it and she tells me if it meant to be it will be. She never says its over for sure, and I think that's what's messing me up. She also told me that she was so close to call me , but when she found out about this stuff it changed her mind and I think that's messing me up as well, even though its bs. It also doesn't help that I dream about her all the time and really don't have people to talk to about this, so I re posted the same thing from back in august

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Girls hate to tell someone it's definitely over. She needs to woman up and stop playing games with you, or you have to stop believing that you still have a chance. Don't put your life on hold waiting for her to figure out if she wants to be with your or not.

She's playing mind games. Cut all contact. Stop letting her make you an option in her life. You don't treat someone you love, the way she's treating you. So that's your answer.

No contact. That's the only way you're going to be able to move on.

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Yea I know I asked the same question. Just can't stop thinking about it. We still stay in touch every now and then. We talked about it and she tells me if it meant to be it will be. She never says its over for sure, and I think that's what's messing me up. She also told me that she was so close to call me , but when she found out about this stuff it changed her mind and I think that's messing me up as well, even though its bs. It also doesn't help that I dream about her all the time and really don't have people to talk to about this, so I re posted the same thing from back in august

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You're having trouble letting go because you keep talking to her. You know it's BS what she said yet you're beating yourself up over it. Do you not see what harm you're doing to yourself? It's not good for you to do this.

She's playing a game with you and is being unfair.

Yea you are right I'm harming myself. I guess I love her more than she did. I guess its hard beca7use she was my first love. I need to stop thinking that I messed this up, because you are right if she truly loved me she wouldn't use that as an excuse. Just sucks, well life sucks

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Yea yall are right im harming myself. I guess I love her more than she did. I guess its hard beca7use she was my first love. I need to stop thinking that I messed this up, because yall are right if she truly loved me she wouldn't use that as an excuse. Just sucks, well life sucks

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Breaking up is never easy, especially when you're the one that got dumped.

It is harder to move on if you try to be friends with your ex. That's why the No contact rule works so well. It's not easy, there are going to be days when you really want to talk to her, but every time you do you put yourself back at square one.

It's time to cut off all contact. Delete her from Facebook, delete her number off your phone, don't answer her calls. Delete her from your life. You deserve to be more than an option.

It will get better, really it will.

Tell you what, you go No Contact, stick with it, and every time you feel like you want to call her, you post on this thread. Start calling your friends, go out and have fun.

Trust me, one day someone else will come along, and this girl will just be a memory. So will the pain.

Let me tell you this too... If she truly loved you, there wouldn't have been the "space" thing to begin with.

Space is often used for one of two things. It's an easier way to break up without coming out and saying it's over. It's also used when they find someone else that they are interested in but want to see if it will work out first before actually ending it with you.

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Let me tell you this too....If she truly loved you, there wouldn't have been the "space" thing to begin with.

Space is often used for one of two things. It's an easier way to break up without coming out and saying it's over. It's also used when they find someone else that they are interested in but what to see if it will work out first before actually ending it with you.

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Exactly! It's the chicken's way out. This way you don't have to actually break up with the guy, and you can keep him as an option if something better doesn't come along. You can use him until he catches on.

It's long past time that you caught on.

Thanks you are right, in going to try my best to have no contact with her, because she doesn't deserve me anyway and she is being selfish. Hopefully one day I can find someone who truly loves me for me no matter what

I wish you the best of luck in this. It's never easy. Just take it one day at a time and keep yourself busy.

If you don't look for it, one day someone will come along and she will make you wonder what you were wasting your time for.

It happened to me and it will happen to you.

Take care.

Thank you take care

Don't sound too heart broken, messing around with women from bar??

But it is over, time to accept this and move on.

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I am heart broken, that girl was the first person that showed me attention, and I'm not going to lie it felt good. Keep my mind away from my ex for a little while. Had no feeling what's so ever towards that girl, just wasn't going to sit at home and be depressed. Plus I'm single to do whatever,she broke up with me. But it's the past and she can use this as an excuse all she wants, I'm tired of beating myself up over this