Well I been married for da last 21 years but I'm deeply in love with my ex , which is my oldest son dad, my son is 22 years old and he really don't agree with how I feel but I know that I really want to be with my ex , he completes me and he makes me happy , my husband isn't a very nice person at times and I think I deserve too be treated with respect and love all the time. Please help , I'm confused, scared and don't know what to do and what my husband might do if he find out!

You can't play both ends. You need to be with one or the other. Would your ex actually get back together if you left your husband?

Have you been seeing your ex all this time?
If you are in love with your ex, why did you marry your husband?
You are being dishonest and you need to own up to what you are doing.

21 years is a long time to simply give up. And, why were you confiding in your adult son?

I'd also like to know if you have had contact with your ex, behind your husband's back.

Easy to make your husband look bad in order to justify what you think you want.

More information would be helpful.