I lost my virginty a month ago. I'm 21 and he's 22, and he's been with other women before, not my boyfriend, he's my ex but we decided to stay friends and our relationship is great. We both like each other but neither one wants a relationship. We both tell each other we're real special to one another. I find him attractive and love spending time with him. I like him a lot. So I lost it to him recently. I felt no pain at all and did not bleed. He used to finger me but the first time we had sex, he didn't he just went in and I felt nothing. We had sex a 2nd time and again, I felt nothing, this time he did orgasm, but I feel nothing I don't even know how to move.

I have never felt an orgasm. I have touched myself only once but got scared. I get very horny in my imagination and fantasy a lot and I want to enjoy sex. I have always had a very creative mind of what I wanted but now that I have the opportunity I don't know what to do and I don't want him to look at my feet because I feel they are very ugly. What can I do to actually enjoy it. I want to try it and enjoy it!

Um, that's a fun relationship.

A lot of women lose their hymen before their first sexual experience. It could be that you didn't really have one to begin with or you lost it in a childhood experience, like horse back riding or bike riding or whatnot. Any trauma to that area might break it. The common story of Pain, Blood, and uncomfortableness is probably not as common as it seems.

As for feeling nothing at all. Do you masturbate? No? You should. You have admitted that you tend to get REALLY horny at times. Explore your body. There's nothing wrong with a little personal play time. It helps you to get to know your body, what you feel, and what you like.

Since you're over 21 you can visit any and every store around you. Including the Adult Toy Store. They're great for finding a nice dildo, or vibrator, or any combination of the two. It might be a worthwhile investment.

As well socks and stockings. If you're not comfortable with your feel then cover them. If that's your only issue then you should count yourself lucky. What don't you like about your feet? I can almost guarantee that there are worse out there. As well, and as a rule, most people just don't care. Honestly.

Practice makes perfect. As well, what are you using for birth control? Have you talked about this to your OB? Might also be something you talk about with them. Don't be shy, they've heard worse and won't judge you. They're help you.

I got two words for you, explore and experiment, and stop being scared to try things, and wears socks if your feet are that ugly, but trust me your friend with benefits ain't thinking about your ugly feet.

And he is a lousy teacher, or you fail to communicate your willingness to try things, so read upon sexual position and techniques. The Joys Of Sex is old, but illustrated. But be aware, having sex with a safe friend is way different when there is a lusty emotional attachment which neither of you has. All you guys are doing is mutual exercise or dancing with no moves.

I agree with CMH, explore and experiment on your own and read up yourself so you will at least be able to tell a partner what you like and what he can do to make it better. The more you know, the more you can communicate. I got another word for you, FOREPLAY! Look it up.

Bottom line, you have tried it twice and didn't know what you were doing, so change that.

You have to masturbate and find out what you like, how you like it, and show him, he should be spending 20 or 30 minutes perhaps in foreplay before sex to get each other in mood and ready.

Learn to have orgasm before he enters and go from there.

Hi, maybe you need to experiment more, touch yourself there's nothing wrong with that, maybe watch an adult movie or a few that might help a bit.
And abut your feet , trust me he doesn't care , Sometimes we as woman feel Insecure about dumb stuff that guys don't even notice

Maybe your gay I never had a man .get me off never know but yeah explore tour body and see what you like so whoever your with can please you