Hello!Im 19 and have recently broken my virginity with my current boyfriend of the same age.The strangest thing is that when we had intercourse for the second time,he complained that I had gotten too big for him.I definitely did not cheat on him,so how could this have happened.Im really woried,is this normal??

Hi mshebo-
It is normal for the muscles in that female area to expand gradually with use... I do not think that by the second interaction, there would be that marked of a difference.

Besides what your boyfriend complains to you about, you should gauge your own self, the difference in sensation from before and now. Go with what you know to be true.

Implying/asserting/accusations of infidelity based on an er-opening does not seem to make sense to me/right to me. Think about whether it makees sense/seems right to you.

Wow, how insensitive can a man be? Honey, did you try suggesting he was in fact too small for you? Your body is very unlikely to have suddenly expanded. It is possible that the angle you have tried this time may not cause as much friction as last time, or with all the excitement you may have become more er... lubricated the 2nd time. There are exercises you can do, if this will help your confidence. When you are sitting in front of the TV, squeeze the muscles you would use if you really needed a wee. Hold it for a second or 2 and then release. Do this as many times as you can. However, I suspect that the only problem that you have is an immature boyfriend hun x

This is his problem not yours, he is the one that doesn't know what's happening, and for him to jump to the conclusion that you have cheated, is a testament to his lack of knowledge and insecurity. If he will not listen to the truth and continues to accuse you of being unfaithful, then kick him to the curb, and save yourself the drama and disrespect he will bring you.

I agree with Talaniman

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Originally Posted by mshebo

Hello!Im 19 and have recently broken my virginity with my current boyfriend of the same age.The strangest thing is that when we had intercourse for the second time,he complained that i had gotten too big for him.I definately did not cheat on him,so how could this have happened.Im really woried,is this normal???

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Im shocked :eek: for his insensitivity!
I would also make it clear to him that this really upset you because its like he is indirectly telling you he thinks you could have cheated!

I don't necessarily think that there is anything to worry about. But now since you have become sexually active its probably wise to visit your gynea. Its standard procedure really nothing to get scared about :)

Good Luck

Make sure he gets educated, on sex if he is going to do it, and wear protection always.

I have to say this and I know I'm going to get moaned for doing so too but here goes, Has it occurred to you that maybe its not you getting bigger its him getting smaller he sounds like an arrogant to be honest and he needs a wake up call you need a man that will respect you not diss you.

Girl Please Your Boyfriend Ain't For Saying That. This Is Most Definitely His Problem And I'm Sure That You Have Not Changed That Much Since You Lost Your Virginity. He Might Only Like Having Sex With Virgins. Please Don't Let His Commit Bother You Or Hurt Yourself Esteem. Also I Think It Is So Awsome That You Waited Until You Were 19 To Loose Your Virginty. Men Would Love To Have Women Like You.

It's normal. Don't sweat it sweetie.

The situation will show itself if he keeps daying you, many guys sadly date only to have sex with a virgin, then move on, hopefully he is not like that.

But I would say you may want to move on, since this guy sounds like a jerk, that comment was totally out of line.

ok, you did not get bigger. IMPOSSIBLE.
in fact, unlesss you gave birth or are a VERY BUSY porn star - it's not gonna happen!!

what DID happen is your body "Welcomed" him...it lubricated. it expanded. it swelled.
all the things it's supposed to do....

if your BF hung in there, he would find your size changes as well....if he calms down it will accomodate him. hopefully he was just being a rookie..better that than some insensitive PLAYER :-)

Walk him through a little sex-ed...

Let me know what else ensues.

Here to help.

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Originally Posted by mshebo

Hello!Im 19 and have recently broken my virginity with my current boyfriend of the same age.The strangest thing is that when we had intercourse for the second time,he complained that i had gotten too big for him.I definately did not cheat on him,so how could this have happened.Im really woried,is this normal???

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Are you kidding? At that age he doesn't know anything about that. I think he may be looking to break it off or he had a bad night and is trying to hang it on you.

OK, when you lose your virginity, your hymen stetches, and it is 100% normal. However, the second time you have sex, your body is ready for it. Things swell and lubricate. He may not have felt AS much tightness as he did when he took your virginity, but let me tell you the change is not that drastic. There is something else here going on. Chances are that, now that your body is not all tight and worried, but rather welcoming, his penis is not big enough for the kind of friction he wants. You two need to talk about this and find out what really is going on. Let him know that your body HAS expanded, not because you cheat on him, but because your body wants to enjoy sex as well!

Cheers!:D