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I grew up in a drug abused home my mom was a cocain addict,crack,weed you name,I got taken away 9 months later I went to live with one of my aunt and uncles,ever since I moved there I have been treated horribly,my sister took me and drove me to my aunt and uncles house I few towns over I stayed there for a month they filed for 90 day custody,they got it but had to go to court a few days later and the custody was terminated and I had to go back to my adopted parents again my adopted father does drugs he smokes pot,what would happen if I turned him in? I really need help

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I grew up in a drug abused home my mom was a cocain addict,crack,weed you name,I got taken away 9 months later I went to live with one of my aunt and uncles,ever since I moved there I have been treated horribly,my sister took me and drove me to my aunt and uncles house I few towns over I stayed there for a month they filed for 90 day custody,they got it but had to go to court a few days later and the custody was terminated and I had to go back to my adopted parents again my adopted father does drugs he smokes pot,what would happen if I turned him in? I really need help

Before giving any advice, I am going to ask that you slow down and think about what you are writing. Your story is a bit difficult to follow and seems to change. Some things that need clarification:

How old are you?

What state/country do you live in?

Who is the adopted family? The people you were taken away from or different people?

Who is addicted to drugs? Your mother (biological or adopted?) Your adopted father? Both? You say mother at the beginning and switch to adopted father at the end.

Who originally took you out of your parents' house? Is Social Services (or their equivalent) involved?

How many sets of aunts and uncles are there? Were you taken from one set to another or did your sister take you from your parents to the aunt and uncle?

Why were you sent back to your 'adopted' family?

Where is your sister? Are there any other siblings involved?

You mention drug abuse. How is that affecting you? Is the person you are living with taking care of you? Are they abusive toward you? Are they neglectful? In other words, what are all of the reasons you want out of your current living arrangements?

How old are you? Unfortuneately many uh abusers are parents and have to grow up in that environment.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

How old are you? Unfortuneately many uh abusers are parents and have to grow up in that environment.

This is a reply to both of you,I'm 15,Massachusetts I live with my aunt and uncle they adopted me my mom is decesed so my uncle (adoptive father is the drug abuser) they verbally abuse me all the time we,so my sister drove me to my other aunt and uncles,they went to court and lost,should I turn my uncle in for drugs to get out

Should you? I would want to know more. What drugs and how much? Does either one work? Did they formally adopt you, or is it a custody arrangement ordered by the court? MAINLY: What kinds of ways do they treat you horribly?
I ask because many times the environment that you get put into is no better or worse, family all turns against you, and then you really have no where to go.
And how old is the sister who drove you? Could you stay with her, even temporarily?
Are different schools involved if you moved? When does school start?

Being it looks like you are in the court system you have to stay where they tell you. Turning people in for drugs rarely does any good. IF they go to jail they are out in no time and then your home life would be more miserable. I think you need your sister to help you as much as possible. Who does she live with? How do they treat you horribly? How they treat you is the key. Like I said most drug addict parents don't lose their kids and as Joy said many times you get turned over to foster care and they can treat you worse.