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Hey, I'm a fifteen year old girl and my boyfriend is seventeen. I really like him and he says that he loves me. We are in a happy relationship but people often watch us strangely when they hear that we are two years apart. My friends are cool with it but his friends think that it's inappropriate. I don't want to let others dictate our relationship but I was just wondering what other people think...
You are a bit young. Don't get into a sexual relationship until you are at least old enough according to your states law.
Are your parents OK with this?
I think 15 is too young to date period. How close is this boy to 18? Stay away from sexual stuff. Depending on laws in your state it can be messy.
My parents know the boy and they are OK with us being in a relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
He just turned 17 this year and we both decided that no matter what, sex is for marriage and definitely not an option right now.
As long as it is OK with your parents I would not worry about what others think.
Stay smart with no sex.
It's good that you spoke with your parents about this, and they are okay with it.
That you are seemingly unsure, makes me wonder if you are feeling a little awkward being in a relationship. Is this your first relationship?
How did you meet.
How long have you been in a relationship.
Why are his friends not for this.
Saying not to have sex is one thing, sticking to your guns is another. 17 year old boys- hormones= trouble. Not saying he is sincere in saying he wants to wait for marriage, but some heavy fooling around is inevitable in my opinion, as the relationship progresses.
IF the relationship gets to that point, where sex is going to happen, please make sure you are prepared with condoms in your purse.
Millions will disagree, but you are kidding yourself if you think that the two of you will be able to keep your hands off each other at some point in the not too distant future.
At your ages 2 years is at the edge of a reasonable gap, but its not bad. Especially as long as your parents are aware of and are OK with the relationship.
If you were both in your 20s, nobody would think twice about it.
I don't quite understand why his friends would object.
This is my second relationship... though my first only lasted a month because the guy decided he just didn't like me anymore. We met through church. We've been together for 2 months but have been friends before that for a year. His friends say that I'm too young for him :/ And I know that hormones are kind of an issue at this age and I know that sticking to my guns is going to be tough but I truly believe that we will be able to sort through all of that and not fool around. Most of my family had premarital sex and that resulted in children out of wed lock. I have seen the struggles that they have gone though with their boyfriends and girlfriends leaving them and being a single parent and honestly, I never want to experience that. Thank you for the advice though. It is wise to be prepared.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jake2008
You sound like a smart kid to me, and it's really impressive how you have thought things through, and are not wanting to repeat the past of some of your family members.
In the long run, that resolve that you have, will pay off. And not just in the sexual relations part. But, having standards and personal morals will see you a long way in school and work and a career eventually.
You sure have your head on the right way, and kudo's to you.
All the best.
This should be fine, considering the fact that by the time you're 20, he will be 22, and that won't seem as big as a difference. Like the other posts said, I would suggest you refrain from sexual activity until the legal age limit. His friends are either just concerned or trying to be douchebags. As long as you're happy and staying safe, it is completely fine :)
It seems OK, I think his friends see this as a hamper on perhaps some "fun" they do, esp because of your age,
But then it is his choice to date you,
Many 17 year olds, date 15 and 16 year old, this is a fairly common dating age
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