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  • Aug 11, 2013, 12:07 AM
    Jg1323
    Did I mess up my chances of ever her coming back?
    My ex girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me because she wanted space and was confused. We still kept in contact but she kept telling me if its meant to be it will be. It has been hard for me to deal with this breakup. One day I got checked in on face book with this girl I was having drinks with. My ex saw it and asked me if we were a thing? I said no and she took it upon herself to log on my face book and there she read messages of me and that girl. And other girls I would message when I get drunk. Then she threw it in my face about that girl but never told me she got on my face book.

    2 months after this I caught her trying to log on after I had changed my password. I told her that it was messed up to go through my personnel stuff. She agreed but I know she is still mad about what she read. I still love this girl and want to be with her. Any advice?
  • Aug 11, 2013, 07:15 AM
    N0help4u
    She is your ex and she is not trying to make it work. She is looking for reasons to justify it not working. You moved on because there is no sense waiting. She can't have it both ways. She sounds like I don't want him but nobody else can have him either.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 07:21 AM
    odinn7
    She broke it off with you for the "space" reason but then got jealous and started snooping? You're better off without her. I never understand people who want space and then get jealous when the other person decides to not be the victim and move forward.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 07:26 AM
    J_9
    Quote:

    she took it upon her self to log on my face book and there she read messages of me and that girl.
    How did she have access to your FB? Change your password.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 10:13 AM
    Jg1323
    I know I think it's dumb on her part. I've poured my heart out to her but this whole time she was logging on my Facebook. I never changed it because I never thought she would do that because she left me. In my mind I'm thinking she is dating around to find something else. She told me the reason she would look at it because she thought it was intriguing to see that I'm like every other guy. And that it became an addiction. I'm just mad because those girls didn't mean anything to me, was just lonely u know. I don't know what to do at this point, I'm tired of feeling this way. The only thing keeping me up is that I'm about to graduate college on Friday. Plus I'm 23 and she is 30.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 12:24 PM
    talaniman
    Save yourself some drama and change your password and enjoy yourself without her. She dumped you and its been a few months. Disappear from her life and let her deal with her own "addiction".

    Just because you get dumped you don't give up your own dignity, and self respect by wasting time on drama and mind games. Or answering for her jealousy, or conniving.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 01:35 PM
    Jg1323
    Thanks for the replies. I just feel like I screwed things up and I didn't do nothing wrong. Makes no sense. I treated this girl so good, she knows it and her own family knows it. If she uses this as an excuse then she really doesn't love me.
  • Aug 11, 2013, 01:45 PM
    talaniman
    Now you are thinking :D She is insecure, that's where the jealousy and selfishness come from. And her "addiction".

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