The pain behind my ears is intense. It happens even if I wear glasses for a couple minutes. It happens with ALL glasses I put on.. so I don't think it's an issue with frames. Reading glasses, several types of sunglasses, etc.

Sometimes that happens to me. I think using something to cushion the arms might help. Something about the size and texture of those pads for corns people get on their feet. I really can't think of anything else that comes closer to what might work