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I'm 15 and my ex girlfriend is too, and we haven't been happy for along time but she is the love of my life... She broke up with me after I cooked her a romantic meal and I said "why don't we look happy"? Is she too young to appreciate me, I'm not a stereotypical 15 boy! Help?
Why haven't you two been happy together? What's going on between you? Details my man, please.
Romantic dinner lu to make that comment. She was probably looking for some romantic follow up and you scared her off or hurt her feelings
Well the disturbance started when she came back off holiday and she came to mine the next day and her mum was waiting in the car and it was in front of her and me being quite a shy person I didn't kiss her I just gave her a cuddle, I didn't think about it but it I eventually found that this had implications that I didn't care!
And then she just seemed like she didn't care; she wouldn't reply to my text until late at night everyday, she never complimented me and I would always say complimentary stuff to her all the time! I felt like it was me making all the effort to see her and during our last argument a few weeks ago we said that we would do more things together e.g. Cinema, restaurant, just spend more time together etc! We found it very difficult to talk!
I am quite a romantic and I like to treat a girl! So the other night I made her a meal which I had thought about forever like what to cook and stuff and it looked so presentable and she just said "good effort"? A part of me wonders is that because she is spoilt (she is a higher class than me) and I have been brought up in a middle class home) and that she doesn't appreciate it... And the other thinks; well she is 15 should she appreciate things like that?
I am very close to her mother and talk to her over Facebook when I have problem, beside the point but!
However she broke up with me after the meal after I said "why don't we look happy" and she replied "I was thinking the same thing"! She ended it and most people thought it was disrespectful that she did it after my efforts!
I said to her I would never give up on us and find her in the future and she said she would be over the moon, but understand that I am starting college in September and she has one more year left at school! The bottom line is I need advice not to dictate my decision.. But to help... All opinions are welcome! :-)
I don't understand this answer?Quote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
You are 15 and starting college next year? Leave her in the moon dust.
Why though?
Because you have better thing to do than linger around after someone dumps you. She wasn't happy anyway, and you may never know why.
Because she doesn't Want anything to do with you as far as a relationship with you.
We were together 9 months and she is in love with me still though
I know it seems like young love will last forever, but it rarely does, and at 15 just because you still have strong feeling doesn't mean she still does. Feelings change and likely she didn't know how to tell you, and may not know why herself.
Accept it, and don't make an annoying pest of yourself trying to get her back or question her for explanations is my best advice. I know it sucks, but life goes on to better things. We all goes through this. Some of us many times and it sucks every time.
You made her a Romantic dinner and then you said 'why aren't we happy'. You ruined the moment. She was probably looking for some romantic follow up like I hope we are together for years to come but you scared her off or hurt her feelings by making the comment asking her why you weren't a happy couple
Yes, a romantic meal is followed by sweet talk, cuddle, and talk of great future.
Talking over problems is done at a table, when both are willing to talk.
If there was already problems, asking that question, at that time, most likely pushed it over the edge.
And if there were problems, at 15, sorry, but most relationships end and fail, so it is time to just start looking ahead and moving on
Thank you
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