My girl is getting very upset and it kills me to see her like this, but when we have sex it goes on for a very long time and I can't seem to "get off". The sensations build and it almost happens (sometimes it does) but if I miss that window, it can become an all night affair. She seems to think that she is not "turning me on" but I am under a lot of stress and with 3 kids are moments are fleeting. This is frustuating for us both, and one of a couple of our problems, but I hate to see her go through this, is there anything I can do to increase my sensitivaty? Vitamins, meds? Sincere replies only please.:(

Yes, stress can cause this. Also, what is your age? Are you on any meds?

Yes, I am on ursidol to keep kidney function, and also on heavy doses of prednisone for about two months.

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Originally Posted by th13rteenyears

My girl is getting very upset and it kills me to see her like this, but when we have sex it goes on for a very long time and I can't seem to "get off". The sensations build and it almost happens (sometimes it does) but if I miss that window, it can become an all night affair. She seems to think that she is not "turning me on" but I am under alot of stress and with 3 kids are moments are fleeting. This is frustuating for us both, and one of a couple of our problems, but I hate to see her go thru this, is there anything I can do to increase my sensitivaty? Vitamins, meds? Sincere replies only please.:(

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I have the same problem -- and have always had it. I can only 'stair step' my way up to an orgasm -- I have to stroke 40 times, then stop for a minute or two, then do it again -- sometimes I have to do this sequence 60 times! It can take 40 minutes!

I wonder about the kidney thing... I have to pee all the time... but that's been true for 30 years! (I'm 51). I've always had this problem with pleasure and stroking while having sex -- and even when I masturbate, with porn, I have to 'stair step'.

Viagra does help a lot in maintaining my erection -- but it's still hard to actually climax.

I am trying a variety of therapies -- including acupuncture. I will continue to work hard on this problem