Me and my girlfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago and we had phases of not talking, but she broke up with me because she said she's fed up and needed a break. I was a dumbass and kept trying to contact her while she was on break because I wanted to get back together and she would tell me no. Then a few weeks after our break up she told me she wants me in her life but she doesn't know as what yet. So I bothered her because I love this girl and will do anything to get back with her. Then she later tells me we can't talk anymore because she feels like she giving mixed signals about a relationship again. We been together almost a year. But we talked last night about everything and she says we will never get back together again ever but she want to have sex with me. I just want to know am I doing the right thing if I have sex with her even though we aren't together anymore? And I think she may catch feeling again. I won't lie I want her back so bad but she's telling me we can have sex but we can't have the relationship

Sure you can have sex with her, if you don't mind the even more excruciating pain that comes when you find out that you are just her reserve, her late night cure for loneliness, while she goes out checking out new guys. When she actually has someone new, she will dump you even faster than before, and more callously. Your call. (Don't do it of course - everyone will tell you that.)

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Sure you can have sex with her, if you don't mind the even more excruciating pain that comes when you find out that you are just her reserve, her late night cure for loneliness, while she goes out checking out new guys. When she actually has someone new, she will dump you even faster than before, and more callously. Your call. (Don't do it of course - everyone will tell you that.)

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but she still has strong feeling for me she say I like the sex, but I want the relationship more. I think the sex might get us back together it'll make her think. But I'm prepared for the worst as well

There you go then. You got the answer you wanted - from yourself.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

There you go then. You got the answer you wanted - from yourself.

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thanks anyway I feel like sea saying what she's saying because I hurt her so maybe she not emotionally ready for the relationship

'Not emotionally ready for THE relationship?'
You hurt her. She's fed up. You HAD a relationship and blew it.

She's ready for ANOTHER relationship. Not to be cruel but you sound clueless. Especially when you think sex matters for very long - I'm a woman, and I promise you, it is less than 1% of a 'relationship's' importance.

Do what you want though.

Talk about sending mixed signals, I do not want you in my life, I do not want to talk to you, I never want a relationship again,. but we can have sex. Translates------I am willing to use you and play with your emotions but I want nothing to do with you.
If you think sex will get her back with you you are very wrong. You come off as desperate so she has no interest. Ignore her for a while and see how she reacts to that.
I really get the impression she wants nothing to do with you because you probably are like a puppy dog that can't live without her. Girls like a more independent guy that doesn't revolve around them to where you suffocate them.
Better yet tell her you don't want the emotional strings so you need to go NO CONTACT

She'll have you as a sex toy but that's it. How degrading. Why would you even entertain that thought?
News Flash. Sex is not going to make her want you if she says she doesn't. It will satisfy her until she finds someone else and it will confuse the hell out of you, keep you on a roller coaster. How old are the two of you?