Hi All,

I am 28 and in love with my 27yrs old GF for 4 years. Girl belongs to high status family then me. Her parents are not ready to marry her with me as I still do not have a good house of my own. I stay with my parents in New Delhi INDIA. I am a preofessional earning handsome salary but not good enough to buy a decent house in Delhi or surroundings.
I am working really hard to earn more money but no use Houses are too expensive to buy. We are losing time day by day.. My GF's parents are forcing her to marry as per arranged by them. She wants to wait for me, I just need to buy a house and would be able to convince her parents. She doent want to go against her parents wish..
Otherwise because of money and no house -- I may have to loose her.. I don t want to give up.. still trying hard.
Please help what to do?? I don't want to loose her because of money and not having my own house. Can any one advice . How do I buy a house?

Since I am in the U.S. and do not know anything about house purchasing options in India, the only thing I can suggest is that you have a long discussion with your parents. Would they consider intervening on your behalf? I believe this has more to do with your GF's parents obligation than about the ability for you to buy a house. They might have told you that to spare their having to outright reject you because they made the marriage pact years ago.

Arranged marriages, as you know, are very difficult to break. Your GF wants to obey her parents. Her parents have made a commitment. Breaking that commitment is not an easy task and most will not do it, as you well know. Do you have an arranged marriage too?

If you do not, maybe there is a way to speak to the man that is betrothed to your GF. Is there someone that you know that can speak to him? Maybe he is in the same situation you are in and is in love with someone else. If there is a way to figure out how to allow your GF's parents out of their obligation or the parents of the man who she is supposed to marry, out of their obligation, I would work on this aspect of it if I were in your position. You will need the assistance of your parents in this.

Hy I just want to told you 1 thing if she don't want to go with u its mean She Don't love you more then here family.

My advice is just **** that type of Girl and live haply.

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