I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months. No doubt, my intention is making her my spouse. But I keep lying over things, borrowing money and she hates that too. Recently I ate her fees and it's a big hole in our lives now. I have plans of paying back but she thinks its one of my lies. She's threatening to breakup that's if she doesn't love me anymore. She's the only girl in mY life and I love her so dearly. How do I get her back. She thinks I won't change. Am confused. This fight has been on for two months. And this is our longest period apart from each other. I need help

So she's very important to you but you lied to her, spent her money... and "ate her fees"... whatever that means.

I think she should break up with you. I mean, why would anyone put up with that? I wouldn't. So how do you get her back... you probably don't. She has likely given you so many chances and you have proved over and over that you will not change so why should she believe you now? Funny how it takes actually losing someone before some people realize they have issues. All you can do now is try to change and hope that she believes you. I wouldn't.

Going to change means over time things will get better. It means you have good intentions but who knows when we will see any results. People are creatures of habit. She knows your habits.

You may not get on her back. Work on yourself.