Okay so I am kind of in a very sticky situation. My best friend and I have been best friends for about 11 years or so and I love her so much, but something has come up that is troublesome and awkward for both of us. Last month or so she tells me that one night when a bunch of my friends and I were hanging out, that her ex-boyfriend of a year and a half was flirting with me. Right off I didn't believe her because her ex and I were pretty good friends since they had been dating. SO I brushed it aside and said that I would never be interested in him. Later on he asks me to hang out and I didn't think of it as a date, but apparently he did and I later on found this out and I said again that I didn't want to date him. Not because I didn't like him, but only because I knew about him and my friend and I would never date him because of her, which I also told her. I didn't want to start getting emotionally involved if it couldn't work. But then my best friend tells me that I should give it try because I could be missing out on something really good and that it wasn't fair to anyone if I did that. She had been telling me this for a couple of weeks before I said that I would give it a try. It should be known at this point that (not that I'm trying to make excuses) that they had been broken up for about 5-6 months and she initiated it and has no feelings for him. Anyway, so now we have been dating for about a month and I really like him a lot. He is just the kind of guy that I have been looking for and as all the qualities that I want in a boyfriend, but now my friend is telling me that she is angry about it and that she probably always will be a little bit. She has another boyfriend now and things are still really good between us, but when she tells me that she feels really angry about it sometimes, I get really confused because she is always changing her mind (which I totally understand). Now the only problem is that I am really emotionally invested in this relationship. Like more than any other relationship I have been in and I really see this going some where important. I never hide anything from her and I always tell her that I love her more than I could love any guy and if she asked me to break up with him I would do it in a heart beat, no matter how much it would hurt, so what should I do this far along the line?

okayy where I live this is the kind of thing that happens ALL the time peoples ex's likeing there ex;s friend honestly this is my opinion if she is really your friend she will understand that he does not like her any more and he likes you and she will understand that you have feelings for him as well and even though he is her ex she should respect it if she is a true friend.. yeah I understand she is your best friend but nothing like best friend or even actual family members can control your feelings < by that I mean just because she is your best friend you can't control how you feel about him and even if the situation was as seirous as one of your closest cousins or your sister's ex or even what ever the situation may be you cannot control your feelings and its up to them to be the good and helpful and understanding people and actually understand that.. hope that helpd=)

He is EX

Ex means... no longer, has been, in the past.


She has a boyfriend.


Ex is no longer in the romantic picture for her.


Move on :)
You can't control your feelings and if you deal with this in a sensitive way -and by the sound of it you do- then just listen to your heart.

You cannot control feelings.
Don't be too hard on yourself.

Good luck.