Ask Me Help Desk - Dating and School

Been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now. Having a relationship and going to med school is getting more and more difficult, in the classroom and out. Lately our small disagreements have been affecting my emotional stability, it’s getting harder to stay focus. The small things once tolerable are now like as if she did them on purpose out of spike (I know she doesn't mean to). My escape from the stress, running has been yielding terrible times. We’ve talked about putting our studies first since we both invested a lot of time and money getting this far in medical school. My feelings for her had definitely changed. I don’t know if I’m “in lover” with her still. I’m not sure if I’m just stressed out and not coping or have that talk about what is best for the future. As I’m writing this it feels like I am running away from the situation, but I don’t know how to tackle this problem.

What types of things are you arguing over? What is she doing that feels like spite? Its possible she may want to break up with you? Since you are in school is this long distance and rarely see each other or are you going to the same school or live in the same general area and still see each other some or a lot? Not sure how your relationship is going other than your overwhelmed enough with school work.

School must come first. In medicine, loss of focus could have a negative impact on your patient. If school is stressful, it may not be in your best interest to have a girlfriend right now. You both need to devote your time to studying. Since she is also a student, she should understand.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

What types of things are you arguing over? What is she doing that feels like spite? Its possible she may want to break up with you? Since you are in school is this long distance and rarely see each other or are you going to the same school or live in the same general area and still see each other some or a lot? Not sure how your relationship is going other than your overwhelmed enough with school work.

We are in the same school, just in different years. We have a communication problem, ex. We agree to meet at Starbucks down the street after class. I don't confirm I'm on my way after my class is dismissed. So she assumes it off and doesn't come. Something small and yet it blows up as something larger than it is. Lately I get looks of "why are you studying" when we go out with her friends. I know it's rude. I feel since it is "talk girl" I should not waste time. Plus since they like to talk about getting free drinks from other guys, I don't want to hear it. Selfish I know, but I have need to distract myself sometimes.