Recently I have started do date a boy from my school, he is very sweet to me and treats me with utter respect, but my friends seem opposed to him. For instance,every time he sits with me he might leave to get a drink for example, my "friends" say things such as "you can do better" ," he just wants to get in your pants' etc etc. I was wondering what should I do? I value my friends but they don't seem to value my boyfriend, some of their past/present boyfriends I don't particularly like but I entrust them to make their own decisions on what makes them happy, why can't they do that for me?

Prove them wrong by not letting him get in your pants and he sticks with you or he can prove them right by leaving you because he couldn't get in your pants. Either way keep him out of your pants.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Prove them wrong by not letting him get in your pants and he sticks with you or he can prove them right by leaving you because he couldn't get in your pants. Either way keep him outta your pants.

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I'll keep that thought in a firm grip, thank you. My friends influence are giving me second thought on him ( by the way I'm 16),and I have full intention to keep him out of my pants, even though I am of leagal age of sex.

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Originally Posted by LOLlover

I'll keep that thought in a firm grip, thankyou. My friends influence are giving me second thought on him ( by the way i'm 16),and i have full intention to keep him out of my pants, even though i am of leagal age of sex.

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Tell your friends, you appreciate their concern for you, but they don't know him like you do. Tell them you have respected their choices so please respect mine. And you tell them, you have no intention of letting anyone in your pants.

It doesn't matter whether you are of legal age or not. Being of legal age just means the boy can't be prosecute for statutory rape. It doesn't mean he can't get in other type of legal trouble. But more importantly, you have your whole life ahead of you. You don't want to risk getting pregnant at this point in your life. Remember that no form of birth control is 100% effective. So even if you use some method you risk pregnancy if you have intercourse.

You are just more mature than they are. The concept of entrusting you to make decisions because you trust them doesn't occur to them yet. You have the ability to educate them. Of course some people never get it.

Maybe they aren't as cool as you are, or think warning you is being a friend. I don't know, but regardless, make YOUR OWN behavior reflect what YOU think, not them. You will have to live with the consequences of your own judgment, or get the blessings, not them.

Some outside influence is healthy, but not when it erodes the confidence in your own judgments and takes over the way you think you should handle your own business.

Take what they say with a grain of salt. I am 22 and started dating my boyfriend when I was 15. We've been together for 7 years (hard to believe). My boyfriend was a little questionable, sarcastic, had a ridiculous sense of humour. I heard rumors about him being from "the wrong side of the tracks". All of those accusations were completely wrong. He was actually really sweet, kind and caring. I would take everyone's advice on here though... don't jump into having sex with this boy. Wait... until you feel like you can trust him and it is serious. Your friends will understand that he is here to stay and will have to accept it. I lost a lot of old friends from high school because they were jealous of my relationship too, that might be the case here.

I think I'd find new "friends." "Friends" support each other, don't tear each other apart.

You could also try asking them very specifically what their problem with "him" is - and tell them what you've told us. You respect their choices. Please respect yours.