I have a few men that want to have sex with me and Preform oral on me... Tho I am not a virgin I am plus size and have self esteem issues when it comes to me getting naked in front of men. What are some tips on ways I can not be so nervous about my body or creative way to have get around being completely naked. ( I'm fine with my lower area its just my stomach and breast I don't like to show)

I don't know why you would want to have oral sex with a "few men," but that's not the question.

Have sex in total darkness, buy lingerie which exposed what you like and covers what you don't like, go into therapy until you reach self acceptance.

There are many extremely attractive, sexy women out there who are plus sizes.

The "few men" comment concerns me - are you having sex, oral or otherwise, to prove something to yourself? I'm sure you know that's foolish, but I also do know it happens.

My best friend is a large woman, always has been, and she's never had difficulty dating and/or finding partners - she's self assured, dresses well, goes out of her way to be clean and fresh, does not seek out men or sites which are looking for plus size women and could charm the birds out of trees. Her weight does not define her.

This concerns me too.
When you meet someone you like a lot and he likes you, you will work out any matters of how you feel about your body - with HIM, not from strangers online. There's no checklist of advice.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I don't know why you would want to have oral sex with a "few men," but that's not the question.

The "few men" comment concerns me - are you having sex, oral or otherwise, to prove something to yourself? I'm sure you know that's foolish, but I also do know it happens

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By a few I mean like 2 I'm not a loose slut or anything just casually talking to these 2 guys. Keeping my options open. But thanks so much for the advice

Just because YOU don't like your body parts doesn't mean they won't. Find some courage to get over your fear.

Even if people don't like some things about us, so what, it's their problem right? Don't feed the fear just to please and be accepted. They love the whole package or get none of it.

Good that it's two - I was afraid that perhaps there is a low self esteem issue and you were somehow compensating.

Of course, I'd get a little jumpy if someone siddled up to me and said, "I'd like to perform oral sex on you," but that's just me.

Honestly? Talk to a counsellor. Body issues, regardless of a woman's size, are probably one of the most common issues in this generation. You really have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and in your own skin before anything else.

There are a lot of body positive sites out on the internet. It might help to look up a few. Look closely at unaltered pictures of famous people, thin people, and normal people. What you will find is that all the things you're uncomfortable with, these people have as well. They're common to the point where almost everyone, man and woman alike, have a variation of these. Stretch marks? Saw those on Sigourney Weaver's hips in the Alien Movie. You wouldn't believe how many strippers, who're in REALLY good shape, have cellulite on their thighs. Bigger breasts will lead to saggy breasts, it happens. Trust me when I say that a lot of men don't care, and most men will love them.

It takes a while but it is worth it. My size 22-24 wife is comfortable with her body. She wasn't really when I first met her, but she got there.

Good Luck.

Your beautiful just the way you are and if a guy won't accept you like that, always remember there is a guy out there that will:)