If you have a one night stand should you tell your spouse
I have been married for 8 years and we dated for 3 years before that. We have two little girls one is 5 and one is nearly 3. I know already I am making excuses and you will dislike that but I want to give a little detail so you can answer me more honestly. Since my first little girl was born, things have gone down hill, before this my husband got all my attention and I was good with that. I was in love with him and was happy to do things that pleased him. When our little girl came along it was a different story. He just continued on with his life and I was up all night with Megan and she rarely slept by day. So I was really struggling, if I asked for help he would tell me to go home to my parents who lived in another county. I wanted to rare our little girl together in our home so I kept going. She did not sleep a full night until she was nearly two and still comes into us during the night. Our second little girl is nearly 3. She was easier to mind but again it was mostly left to me. I have since gone back to work and enjoy being out of the house but still have to balance babysitting meals etc. My husband and I were sleeping in separate rooms and not going out together or doing much together at all. Just three months ago I could not do it any longer and I told him we had to separate. I hoped we could do it amicably but apparently there is no easy process for separation. He will not move out, I want to stay with the kids, we have no where we can go, he feels it is sudden but I tried to explain that it has been going on since Megan was born. Just two weeks ago I went home for two weeks, he promised things would change and is trying now but I have gone passed that now, I can't forget how I have felt for so long and think I can forgive if we just go out separate ways. But I have made a huge mistake, just last week I met up with an old friend for a drink and we talked for ages and he was very nice to me, told me I was beautiful, told me he remembered what I wore the last time he met me, played a song for me called... I'm still in love wit you, we started dancing and before I know it we were together, at first I stopped and said no I can't do this and went to get a taxi home but there was no one answering, we went back to his place and he said I could sleep in his bed, I lay down and before I knew it he was in beside me, it felt like so long since someone wanted me, I just gave in... I know it was so wrong and now I feel so guilty and mad at me as I made such a complicated situation that I was unhappy in anyway worse. Do I tell my husband? I am so scared as now I don't know what to do, I feel like I have to leave the marriage because what I have done is unforgivable. I don't want to tell him as I don't want to hurt him, if I am going to leave anyway, I feel it would be unfair to try to get rid of my own guilt by telling and hurting him. Please let me know what you think, Thank you