Im in love with 2 guys one is married and the other is single and wants to be with me..
But the married guy treats me like a lady and is sweet and tells me he wishhes he wasn't married and I want him to leave his wife... but the single guy I sweet too and I've been tlking to him for a long time now I don't know what to do I need help please... I love the married guy a lot and the single guy too

You love the married guy? You realize you are just a piece of meat to him, right? You are sloppy seconds. He has no respect for you. If he did, he would have divorced his wife before he started seeing you.

Oh, I know. He's not happy in his marriage, they don't have sex... blah blah blah. Do you have any idea how many times we have heard that?

Don't be a homewrecker. Leave him alone and go with the single guy.

I know I'm crazy for feeling like this its just I work with the married guy and see him everyday and he.just brings a smile to my face... but the thing is no one can know at work about it... the single guy used to work therer he was my manager then quit and got a better job last year but we haven't stopped talking since but I just don't want to hurt the other one and I know I am sloppy seconds

You don't want to hurt the "other one" but you don't give a rat's arse about hurting the married man's wife? I seriously hope he doesn't have children.

Save yourself a lot of grief. Once she finds out about you, and she will, I can promise, your troubles have only begun.

Even if he does divorce his wife for you, your relationship won't work out. He will cheat on you.

Women like you who continue these relationships actually disgust me. Why? My husband was like this man. We had children who had to go through counseling for trust issues once he divorced me for a girl like you. Oh, that relationship didn't last either.

Also, if your place of employment has a fraternization rule, you could both lose your jobs.

Have more respect for yourself.

I know we can... and the reason I started feeling this way I went to one of my friends wedding yeserday and the single guy was there and after that it just got me thinking a lot... and asking myself why do I want to go with a married man when I got a single guy that can't stop texting me or calling me cause he wants to take me out but at the same time I don't want the married to see me with him

If you haven't guessed, I'm the wife that was cheated on. I AM the scorned woman.

I can give you insight into what the wife feels when the husband breaks his vows. I can give you insight into what we wives think about women like you.

No, it won't be pretty. Actually it will probably put you in tears. It will make you angry at yourself and the married man that you are seeing.

This man is the lowest of the low, and you aren't far behind.

Im 20 I've been married got married at 18 and my husband cheated on me and it made me madder then hell too... so I left him cause I couldn't trust him... so I think that's why I'm doing this I know I need to stop

Then stop. It's really not that hard. Have some self-respect.

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Im 20 I've been married got married at 18 and my husband cheated on me and it made me madder then hell too... so I left him cause I couldn't trust him... so I think that's why I'm doing this I know I need to stop

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That's not an excuse. Stop making excuses as to why you are breaking up a family.

You are 20 and have been married? Now divorced? I don't think your generation takes marriage vows as seriously as they should.

Once a cheater always a cheater. He is sweet to you because he needs the excitement of cheating. If he does leave his wife for you, expect to find him with another challenge. It might be time to wake up from this little dream.

So what do you figure will happen? One is off limits and strings you along. The other is available. Do you want the complicated answer or the obvious?