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  • Jul 19, 2013, 12:55 PM
    JasonWest99
    Can a seventeen year old girl date a 14 year old guy?
    I am 14 and I like a seventeen year old girl who possibly likes me. I can tell that she is a little disappointed that I'm younger than her. Should I still like her?
  • Jul 19, 2013, 12:59 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Should you "like" her? Sure, you could "like" someone who is 40, for that matter.

    She, likewise, is free to "like" you.

    I doubt it's more than "like," because your ages are worlds apart at this stage in your life, and I am gathering from your question that you are not remarkably mature for your age. How did she happen to think you are the same age? She can date "boys" who drive, have cars, have jobs/money. I'm surprised she is considering dating younger.

    Is that your question? Yes, you are free to "like" anyone/everyone.

    When it comes to dating (and this is posted on an adult dating board) that's something else.

    You can date anyone as long as no sex is involved. If your parents don't approve of you dating her she can be charged with interfering with your parents who are trying to raise you.
  • Jul 19, 2013, 01:04 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Can you like her yes. Can you date her, that depends on your parents but I cannot understand why a 17 year old girl would want to date a 14 year old. You don't drive, you have no job, you need your parents permission to even talk to her. You are nowhere near her maturity level.
  • Jul 19, 2013, 01:11 PM
    joypulv
    Many an older teen says 'too bad you are x years younger.' Take it as a compliment and leave it at that.
    Part of getting older means knowing what someone MEANS. You do this with little exchanges back and forth, maybe joking, maybe serious, until you have a sense of what the other person is thinking. Don't forget that half the time the other person has no clue what you mean at first either.
  • Jul 19, 2013, 01:19 PM
    talaniman
    You know she is disappointed because of your age so don't get carried away by liking her and thinking you can get with her. For dating or anything else.

    I doubt she likes you that way. But I understand how the attention of an older female can lead you to wonder. Feel good about it without being silly, or foolish. That won't feel very good trust me. Been there, done that.
  • Jul 23, 2013, 08:43 PM
    nanyananya
    I don't think so, my sisters friend had her heart crushed by a 16 year old, he thought she was an immature 13 year old and cheated on her with a 12 year old. Dating an older person might seem fun, but until your in your late teens like 16 it really can cause problems. And you might just be too immature from their point of view
  • Jul 23, 2013, 09:14 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by nanyananya View Post
    I don't think so, my sisters friend had her heart crushed by a 16 year old, he thought she was an immature 13 year old and cheated on her with a 12 year old. Dating an older person might seem fun, but until your in your late teens like 16 it really can cause problems. And you might just be too immature from their point of view

    A 16 year old has no business messing with a 12 or 13 year old. That is just creepy and wrong.
  • Jul 24, 2013, 07:44 AM
    Oliver2011
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    A 16 year old has no business messing with a 12 or 13 year old. That is just creepy and wrong.

    Amen.
  • Jul 24, 2013, 11:20 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    It is great to dream and like, no it will not work and the older teen would not want this

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