My boyfriend and I went out for a year and a month but broke up because we were fighting way more than usual. We were without each other for 7 months. He got a girlfriend one month after the break up and was with her for 6 months but told me he missed me and was stupid for letting me go. For a few months he did nothing to get me back until I told him that I was going to stop waiting for him and to be friends. He said he was not okay with being friends because of what he felt for me so he said the moment he had the chance to break up with her he would. So after like about 3 weeks we started talking then soon started dating again but things don't feel the same and I always seem to be mad or sad whenever I'm with him and tries his best to make me happy and it's happened three times since we've gone out that I feel like that. He says he doesn't want to lose me again and I tell him the same thing because the break up we had really affected me bad I would sleep crying and wake up with a pain in my heart crying. I don't think I can go through that twice. So I need help on what to do or how to forget all the pain I went through. Please!

My biggest concern is that he can't seem to function without a girlfriend. I don't know if he cheated on you.

He certainly cheated (perhaps only emotionally) on the girlfriend who followed you.

Do you need this drama in your life?

Love isn't about a feeling. That is why so many fail. Love is a commitment, either you both make that commitment and see where it goes or you break up and have a bunch of regretful 'if only' 'what ifs' running through your mind. You can't stay together simply because you can't bare the pain of a break up but that isn't fair to either one of you. So you communicate work it out and commit. Then hope for the best.

And if you do "reconcile" I would suggest STD testing.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

My biggest concern is that he can't seem to function without a girlfriend. I don't know if he cheated on you.

He certainly cheated (perhaps only emotionally) on the girlfriend who followed

Do you need this drama in your life?

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He told me he cheated on her with two girls.

Some guys are chronic cheaters like Judy said drama

I would not consider someone who cheated on someone else to be good boyfriend material - and that's two he admits to.

Yes, STD testing is a good idea.

Not to be harsh but the decision to keep in contact with him even when he had another girlfriend was a mistake on many levels. How is that not cheating on her with you? You chose also to wait for him, knowing he cheats.

You really should look at how you have been strung along by him, and your own misery. He goes from female to female whenever he wants and you still want him? You are asking for trouble and can't see there is something wrong with this picture, and how YOU have handled it.

Wake up, or keep drowning in your own... S(crap)T. Get control of yourself you obviously gave your heart to the WRONG person long ago. Take it back.

Hey I'm kind of in the same situation you should break up with him even though you still love him so much.. u might get hurt now but trust me after you are going to feel way way better? And guess what your going to get stronger and he is going to realize his stupid and his going to start chasing you later on.. trust me on that I have experience but at the same time you got to talk to him about it I know you love him but this what you guys have isn't really nice not to be harsh but yeah

Sarah, it's really difficult to take your advice seriously when it's all text speak. This is an adult board. Please use full words.