We were together for 3 years, then broke up. While we were broken up we slept together once in a while and then got pregnant. We tried again for a year. But my immaturity and drinking all the time caused another break up.

Ever since the break up I was going job to job and trying to figure my life out with a child. I've never cheated on her, just I was a big flirt and I think she lost all trust in me. We've been broken up now for almost 2 years and in that 2 years I realized that she helped me through everything in my life to be a better person. Before I didn't see what she's done but now I do. I haven't tried to get back with her ever since because I don't know what to do or say, I get nervous around her but at the same time I feel great.

She moved away for school with our son and I got a career now where I'm gone for a long period. I don't know if she's seeing anyone but I don't care. So my question is what should I do? Or what can I say to her to make her realize I am not the same person from before but a brand new man that's changed?

Write her a nice letter pouring out your heart and tell her that if there is anyway to make it up to her... you'd love it if you could ever get another chance...

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Write her a nice letter pouring out your heart and tell her that if there is anyway to make it up to her..........you'd love it if you could ever get another chance.......

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Lol, I don't know if your serious or not

What you got to lose?

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What ya got to lose?

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Yah true, I won't see her or my son for a couple months. Maybe she'll think about it during that time.

I hope so but you have to let her know your thinking of her.

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I hope so but you have to let her know your thinking of her.

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Yah no doubt, thanks for the advice I appreciate it.

You are both parents so build around being good ones and develop a dialog so you can find out where her head I at. That's how you restore faith and trust, without it, what you want has no meaning.

I say that because you have no clue what she is about now, and going back and seeing if you can repair your past is unrealistic. What if she is happy with what she is doing and wants no emotional drama?

Be willing to work with her and be good parents together before you get to the other stuff. If you were good parents already you would know what she is doing with her life, and with whom. You don't so I think you are starting from scratch. It could take years of positive good works to wash away the memories of the past you.

Have you even been a good caring parent since your transformation? Words are meaningless when actions are required. Start with being a good caring parent. Build on that, whether you convince her of anything or NOT.

We are both great parents together. We doing everything with our son. I still support her while she's doing her thing and we still pretty much act like we're together still. Just without the status.

Maybe talking to her about it might work no yes?

Of course you talk about it. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Glad to hear you are doing the best to do our part.

Good luck.

Thanks guys for the advice.