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Herpes? Help

Me and my boyfriend on Saturday he fingered me and have me oral. Two days ago I got clear discharge around the time I should be ovulating. Today I have whitish discharge. I have an itchy and sore sensation that hurt…down there. So I check and there's these tiny little pimple like things on my vagina lip they kind of look whitish and skin colored and they hurt when I touch them also right now I checked again and I felt it and its rough skin. My boyfriend did finger me roughly. We both were virgins when we had sex 3 months ago for the first time unprotected. He has given me oral and has fingered me before and this has never happened. Also when I checked it seemed like the skin where the pimples where is peeling off even though the skin is fresh. I'm really scared that I might have herpes. What can It be

How do you know you was ovulating... been keeping a Basal Temp chart or taking test to find out when? Odd for a virgin to be doing. Or anyone that's not actively trying to get pregnant. If it's a cell phone app.. get rid of it because its worthless.

If he was a virgin how did he get herpes? Do you even know he has it because you get that from someone infected.

You have to be tested to find out if you do or not... otherwise you are just guessing. Which would be recommended because people lie all the time. You can't assume or take someone's word for it. And you will have peace of mind or be able to get treatment to control outbreaks if you are. There is no cure for Herpes at this time.

He doesn't have herpes since we were both virgins. And I know I'm ovulating because it's the 14th day of my cycle and I usually get it a week after my period which is around this Time and I have a lot of discharge.

I've known him for a long time he hasn't had a girlfriend other than me. And plus we've done this before and this didn't happen even if he had herpes

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Originally Posted by Lechin13

He doesn't have herpes since we were both virgins. And I know I'm ovulating because its the 14th day of my cycle and I usually get it a week after my period which is around this Time and I have alot of discharge.

Um.. thats not how it works... maybe in a textbook... in real life women can ovulate on any day of their cycle. You can't feel it because the egg is microscopic. And short of a tiny change in hormones and a tiny fraction of a degree charge in your temperature... there are no symptoms.

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Originally Posted by Lechin13

I've known him for a long time he hasn't had a gf other than me. And plus we've done this before and this didn't happen even if he had herpes

You don't always get herpes on the first exposure... and some people are infected and show no symptoms but can infect others...

And incidentally... unless you've been with him 24 hours a day since he reached puberty... you can't be sure.

It might very well be true.. fact is you are making assumptions... and assumptions can get you in a lot of trouble.

I recommend getting tested for STD's... then at least you will know you have nothing. For your own peace of mind.

But him and me were virgins. And he says he doesn't have herpes which I believe him because he hasn't had another partner other than me. We've done stuff like this before and I've never had this? Plus it's peeling off even if its fresh skin…it hurts to touch myself down there. We did that on Saturday and this happened today. Can it be something else?

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Originally Posted by Lechin13

But him and me were virgins. And he says he doesn't have herpes which I believe him bc he hasn't had another partner other than me. We've done stuff like this before and I've never had this? Plus it's peeling off even if its fresh skin…it hurts to touch myself down there. We did that on Saturday and this happened today. Can it be something else?

Like I said... GET THE TEST... you know you were a virgin... all you have is his word he was... young guys lie all the time... listen. I'm a guy, I know. I have no trouble telling you this because there is no Guy code preventing me from doing it.

Its probably nothing... something that will go away, and there are a number of them... but there are things that you NEED to know about if you get them because they can make you sterile.. or cause cervical cancer if left untreated.

That's why I say..,. when in doubt get tested first... its better to know than to not know.

Sounds like your skin may have been sensitive and you two were going at it a little rough. You can do nothing and wait it out or you can go to the dr or testing place. A dr will be able to tell you what's wrong whereas an std testing place will only check you for an std and if you 2 were virgins then it probably is just (roughed up).

How long should I wait if it doesn't go away?

You should get checked asap. I think it takes time for herpes to show

What if both of us don't have records of having genital herpes?

Then its something else. The dr would have to determine that. If all tests are negative then its just that your boyfriend was a little rough

I'm pretty sure he was a little to rough. But how long should I wait I fit doesn't go away? Any symptoms I should look for?

There are some test links on this page that might help
http://www.herpes.com/Symptoms.shtml

I wouldn't wait... I'd go to the doctor... get tested and they can determine what it is and if there is something they can do at the same time. Kill two birds with one stone so to speak.