Ask Me Help Desk - My dad got custody of me but I am miserable

When I was 4 I didn't like my sis so I thought I would live with my dad and at the time, so I waited till I was 7 to move in with him. He had just gotten married 2 yrs before to my step mom who I thought I loved but as soon as I got he as a mom I fell off cloud nine and hit the concrete and died 1 thousand times and it was worse than I thought it was going to be because I had gotten a little bro 1 yr before then 1 yr after that I got a little sis and then I fell off cloud nine 1 thousand times again. And I am 12 yrs old and before I get into high school I want to live with my mom. Sometimes I feel like I just want to kill myself or start my life all over and be reborn and fix the mistake of ever meeting my dad when I was 2. I tried talking to them about it but [step] won't get off her ING phone long enough to breath she tells me not to be the mother of her kids but the only reason there bad is because they won't atition from there mother. I need some help [step] slaps me across the mouth I have been grounded from my computer for 2 yrs and the only time I can get on it is when [step] is gone I only see TV when my little bro or sis is watching something and I am not doing the laundry or dishes or floors or bathrooms or bedrooms. I see my mom 3 times out of the year and 2 of the times is 1 week and that is it. Non of my friends can come over because they like to have fun and be silly. All I want is to live with my mother once again in 1 yr hopefully without having to go to court. CAN ANY ONE HELP ME AND IF YOU CAN PLEASE HELP I MADE A HORIBLE MISTAKE AND I WOULD LIKE TO UNDO IT ANSWER BACK ASAP BECAUSE I WAKE UP EVERY MORNING WISHING TO BE DEAD AND IF NO ONE HELPS ME I SWEAR I WILL KILL MYSELF. SO PLEASE CAN ANY ONE HELP ME??

You say you got to move at 7 because it was your wish. So there is no custody order? This was not done through court? Have you told your mom how bad it is and you want to move back?

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

You say you got to move at 7 because it was your wish. So there is no custody order? This was not done through court? Have you told your mom how bad it is and you want to move back?

But my mom would not let me move with ease so we had to go to court and yes I have told her and she has tried to send them to court but for her to be able to do that I had to talk face to face to my dad and [step] but I am terrified to tell them my dad and [step] think I am just fine but I am totally the opposet I have no idea what to do I want to go there now but I don't want to have to talk to [step] and dad face to face and court takes too long and because my mom lost once I am afred if we go to court that she will lose again.

For a dad to get custody over mother, normally there is more to it, a reason, beyond a child's wishes, at 7 no court I know of would even listen to what a chlld wants.

Next, your mom has to go to court, and if she loses, it is because there is something in her lfie, that is not right and better for you to be with dad. The courts will look at who can provide the better home.

Next you do not die and get reborn, you die and are gone, period, and it not ever a real optoin, you will live to be 80 ot 90, so now at 12, you have maybe 6 years at most at home. It is time to learn how to make the best of it, the more you fight it, and try to find fault you will.

At 12, no matter where you lived, you would find reasons to think someone else was loved more, or that you were not loved, guess what, that is how almost all 12 year olds feel

Okay now you are just getting mean I thought you were suppose to help me and not be rude about it and what don't you get about that I DON'T WANT TO GO TO COURT FOR IT some of that was metafores and maybe I need to get help some where else

First, no one was rude or mean. We are trying to help you.

But the bottom line is that for custody to change, both of your parents need to agree AND a court has to approve the modification. That's the law and that's what you have to deal with.

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Originally Posted by Chloe1314

okay now you are just getting mean i thought you were suppose to help me and not be rude about it and what don't you get about that I DON'T WANT TO GO TO COURT FOR IT some of that was metafores and maybe i need to get help some where eles

Sweetheart, have you tried talking just to your dad about how you feel? Or maybe writing a note to break the ice. When you are 13 you will be able to chose who you want to live with, in most states, I believe that is the law. My husband had custody of his 2 sons, but when they became teens, about your age, they decided they wanted to live with their mom. She let them get away with things their dad would not. There was no court, he allowed them to go live with their mother, simple as that.

Killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. I have felt it was a good solution myself and tried it a couple times. But now I am so glad I survived.

God bless you and keep you, may He give you peace and wisdom and His favor upon you.

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Originally Posted by tsila1777

Sweetheart, have you tried talking just to your dad about how you feel? Or maybe writing a note to break the ice. When you are 13 you will be able to chose who you want to live with, in most states, I believe that is the law. My husband had custody of his 2 sons, but when they became teens, about your age, they decided they wanted to live with their mom. She let them get away with things their dad would not. There was no court, he allowed them to go live with their mother, simple as that.

Killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. I have felt it was a good solution myself and tried it a couple times. But now I am so glad I survived.

God bless you and keep you, may He give you peace and wisdom and His favor upon you.

{i need some help [step] slaps me across the mouth I have been grounded from my computer for 2 yrs} It is NEVER OK for a parent or step to slap you across the mouth or face. Does your dad know that she did this? If this happens often, and I'm going way out here, maybe you should report it to child services.