Im 19 and my boyfriend is 21 in two weeks! My boyfriend was out of a job for two years and finally got a job of 5 days a week and well over 12 hours a day and it is very physical. We've been together 10 months and in the last few months hehas been interested in sex at all and its getting worse. Hes not intersted in his hobbies anymore either. He is also tired all of the time. I don't want to break up with him as I am happy but just not in this department. He won't talk to anyone about it which fustrates me. I do feel that he could be suffereing from mild depression as I myself have suffered from severe depression when I was 16 years old. So I know the signs. He bottles all of his feelings up abd bassically I'm worried to hell abd don't know what to do. Im very open when it comes to sex and will dress up but get rejected.

He's already told you what is wrong. Exhaustion is one of the most basic killers of a libido. When you're exhausted you really don't want to have anything to do sexually. You really just want to recharge. Give it a little time and maybe switch around when you want to have sex.

We're preoccupied with having sex before bed that we don't consider that maybe morning sex, for example, might be a good time to get things going. Explore that.

Depression might be the answer, but you're not really qualified to diagnose. You've been through it. If I broke my floating rib, I would know intense localized pain. Seeing someone with the same pain, I would suggest that they've got the same thing. The only problem is that it could be something completely different, and while my diagnosis was accurate for what I was experiencing, it wasn't even close to what the other person was.

He might be adjusting to the new job and the time constraints that come with it along with the physical efforts. Don't push him too much and don't be disappointed if you get rejected. You're not being rejected because he doesn't want to have sex with you, you're being rejected because he doesn't want to have sex with you right now. Give it a little time and it will even out.

In the meantime, talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. See if you can't hash something out there.