I have been seeing this guy for ovet 5 years. Nothing serious, I had someone when I was seeing him, he was dating. Long story short, he says he doesn't want a relationship. I got pregnant the baby is his. I am married. Don't know what to do. He knows the child is his, he has seen the baby and wants to be in the child's life. Always asks me who I am with, doesn't want me to be intimate with my spouse. What the hell. Please help.

What are you hoping we will say? An affair is always serious when a child is born out of it. Now there is no action you take that can be 'right.' He doesn't want a relationship with you; just the child. He doesn't want you to be intimate with your husband. He doesn't get to order you around, especially with those contradictory demands.

You have to decide how important your HUSBAND is to you. Where does he fit in all of this? Does he even know?

Sounds like everyone is sleeping around with everyone, so of course you are confused.But where are you at ? In most places, child is legally considered husband, unless there is court actual by bio father. Has bio father filed for visitation ? Have you asked for child support.

Does your husband know child is not his ?

Unless you are still having an affair with man, ( sounds like you may be) who you have sex with is not his business.

How can he even consider controlling what you do with your husband outside of breaking up your marriage over the baby? Like Alty said You have to decide how important your HUSBAND is to you. Then it might even be too late,. He files for visitations and you file for child support, husband finds out and who knows ------.

What are you confused about. You cheated on your husband and got pregnant by a man who does not want you sleeping with your own husband. Does your husband know the baby is not his? You need to come clean with your husband, get child support and leave the other man alone.