Hi, I am a 23 year old guy who has absolutely no luck in meeting girls. I haven't been on a date in over 4 years... I try to tell myself that I am focusing on my career but it can get really lonely. I am a shy person when it comes to meeting girls and I have no idea where to start but I want to have a nice girlfriend.

A few months ago... I met this girl online. In this game I have met this girl and things just started to click. She was pretty and a nice person. We added each other on skype, exchanged pictures and messaged each other frequently. However, it turned that this girl is 16, lives 8 hours drive away. She told me she doesn't mind the age gap because to her age doesn't matter.

I was really skeptical about this situation, as I have been in an online relationship once with a girl who was younger than me by 1 years and lives far away. We ended up meeting each other in person a few times and decided to be in a relationship. A year later she cheated on me and broke my heart.

Anyway back to the current situation. This girl is giving me tons of mixed signals that I don't know how to interpretate. At first she is really interested in me and now it is just awkward silence when we talk on skype but she would still say hi to me. At first she seemed like she wanted to get involved with me but now it just appears that she is a little distant with me.

The problem is... I now have some sort of feelings for her... even though she is so much younger, lives far away and it is only online. I honestly don't know what feelings these are and what to do and I can't stop thinking about her all day which is disrupting my work... I need advice to know what to do...

She's a child, you're an adult. Stay away from her.

She's giving you mixed signals because she's a child. Teens don't date seriously, they date anyone that comes along. She probably found someone she can actually date, not someone she's never met. Still, you're a good distraction when she's bored, it just sounds like she's not as bored as she used to be.

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Originally Posted by Alty

She's a child, you're an adult. Stay away from her.

She's giving you mixed signals because she's a child. Teens don't date seriously, they date anyone that comes along. She probably found someone she can actually date, not someone she's never met. Still, you're a good distraction when she's bored, it just sounds like she's not as bored as she used to be.

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That is a good point. Every time I ask her whatsup, she would say I'm bored... now she doesn't as much.

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Originally Posted by simpleguy123

That is a good point. everytime i ask her whatsup, she would say im bored.... now she doesnt as much.

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Because she's not bored anymore. You were a great distraction, now you're just someone she has to deal with.

Cut all contact, and find someone your own age, someone you can have an actual relationship with.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Because she's not bored anymore. You were a great distraction, now you're just someone she has to deal with.

Cut all contact, and find someone your own age, someone you can have an actual relationship with.

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Okay. I just can't believe how things got out of hand. Some part of me really liked her and she was really pretty. I guess a part of me knew it was never going to work out.

How would you suggest that I go about finding someone my own age. I am an introvert, I don't socialize very much and a little bit shy. I know I should just try to go out more but it is so much easier said then done and I have been trying to meet someone for so long now...

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Okay. I just can't believe how things got out of hand. Some part of me really liked her and she was really pretty. I guess a part of me knew it was never going to work out.

How would you suggest that i go about finding someone my own age. I am an introvert, i dont socialize very much and a little bit shy. I know i should just try to go out more but it is so much easier said then done and I have been trying to meet someone for so long now...

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The part of you that should have never hoped for a relationship is the 23 year old. She's 16, a child! That alone should have been enough for you to realize you can't have a relationship with her, even if she's willing.

Have you tried dating sites? It's okay to meet people online, as long as they're of age. Meeting people that are too young to date, and then pursuing them anyway, is wrong, not only legally but morally. Do you realize that?

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The part of you that should have never hoped for a relationship is the 23 year old. She's 16, a child! That alone should have been enough for you to realize you can't have a relationship with her, even if she's willing.

Have you tried dating sites? It's okay to meet people online, as long as they're of age. Meeting people that are too young to date, and then pursuing them anyway, is wrong, not only legally but morally. Do you realize that?

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I have realized that which is why I am confused with this entire situation and hesitating on what to do next. We actually met on an online game so it wasn't like I was intentionally going after a 16 year old. She just happened to be 16, We actually had a connection before we even knew each other's age. I'm still a little hung up on this situation but I know its time to move on...

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I have realized that which is why i am confused with this entire situation and hesitating on what to do next. We actually met on an online game so it wasn't like I was intentionally going after a 16 year old. She just happened to be 16, We actually had a connection before we even knew each other's age. I'm still a little hung up on this situation but i know its time to move on...

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Once you found out she was 16, that's when contact should have ended, immediately.

Read your post. You didn't post that you felt that you were wrong about dating a child, you posted that you felt she was slipping away.

It's way past the time to move on. No matter how desperate you are for a relationship, it's never okay for an adult to be with a child, and that's what she is, for at least another 2 years. You need to realize that there are boundaries, and you have to follow them no matter how desperate you are.

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Once you found out she was 16, that's when contact should have ended, immediately.

Read your post. You didn't post that you felt that you were wrong about dating a child, you posted that you felt she was slipping away.

It's way past the time to move on. No matter how desperate you are for a relationship, it's never okay for an adult to be with a child, and that's what she is, for at least another 2 years. You need to realize that there are boundaries, and you have to follow them no matter how desperate you are.

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Well it wasn't like I was trying to sleep with her or anything. I would never do that with an underage minor. We were just talking and trying to build a connection online. But even that is a little controversial.

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Well it wasn't like i was trying to sleep with her or anything. I would never do that with an underage minor. We were just talking and trying to build a connection online. But even that is a little controversial.

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It's not controversial, it's criminal in many States. You're an adult, she's a minor. Online communication when one person holds a position of authority over another (adult to child) where they're trying to build a relationship, which you stated you were trying to do, can land you in jail.

Bottom line, you wanted to date her, and now you're upset because she's no longer interested.

You need to figure out why you went after a child instead of trying to build a relationship with an adult like yourself.