Ask Me Help Desk - Feeling overwhelmed

I´m unemployed and currently receiving benefits as I lost my job some months ago. Despite lots of efforts, I haven´t been able to find a job and it´s getting to me.

I´m in serious debt as well, but it was under control when I had the job. Now I won´t get anything until September and I´m scared. I cannot pay the mortgage, but managed to get all process stopped until this fall.

I believe most if not all of my problems in life are from my own making. I have been diagnosed as depressed with Borderline tendencies and am on medication. I go to twelve step meeting as well and it helps, but it´s not enough.

In many ways, I feel my life is over. I´m in my fifties, estranged from my only daughter and with nothing to show but failure. I know it´s negative thinking, but I´ve run out of ideas of how to boost my self-confidence.

I really want to change my life and I hope someone can give me advice.

How about connecting with a counselor who will help you set goals and will connect you with a job coach who will help you find a job? Also, consider volunteering at a hospital or library or nursing home or animal shelter where you will make connections with other volunteers which could lead to finding out about job openings.

A mortgage on what? If there is more than one bedroom, for pity's sake get a female roommate for each one. Charge $50/mo less than the going rate in your area, plus shared utilities, but screen very very carefully (consider direct deposit required from her bank account to yours), and draw up a list of expectations about the house.

Thank you for your reply, Wondergirl. I will contact a therapist on Monday and ask if I´m entitled to a few sessions.

Joypulv, I have a small flat. There is not a space for a roommate. Otherwise, thanks for the advice.

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Originally Posted by Rosamaria31

Thank you for your reply, Wondergirl. I will contact a therapist on Monday and ask if I´m entitled to a few sessions.

If you check with township or county human resource offices or Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services or even private counselors/therapists who work on a sliding scale, you should be able to find someone very affordable. I always charged something to give value to the counseling I did, but was more than willing to work within my clients' financial situation. Most counselors feel the same way. We want to help you, not fleece you.

#1 Go to more meetings. If one a week doesn't help, go to 2. Do nopt give up because things are bad. I had my life all wrapped up a few years ago. Great place to live, absolutely fabulous job, Great girlfriend , my son and grandkids were always with me. 3 years ago, I went to the ER because I was just not feeling "right". I have suffered from depression for over 20 years and it just didn't seem like the meds were working quite right anymore. They weren't. I was diagnosed with Leukemia and my blood counts were so low when I went in the hospital, I ended up in the ICU for a week. Everything at that pointy in my life went to . Had to leave my job. Had to move in with my son because I could not afford the apartment. Had to sell my car because I could not afford the insurance. Social Security Disability has turned me down three times now. GF just up and dropped me.
Ya know what... my life is GREAT. I am alive. I can get up everyday and see the sun shining and put my feet on the floor. MY son and grand kids always make me smile. Perfect strangers have become friends in my chemo treatments and other support groups. I am going to have a stem cell transplant and LIVE! Never, I mean NEVER give up. There is ALWAYS a reason to go on. Life is what YOU make it not what other people do in it. Rent a couple of rooms to college students and make that house work in your favor. Stay up beat no matter what. Depression feeds itself. If you think that I don't get "down" once in a while, you would be wrong.. I just don't allow myself to stay there.