Ok well, I've been dating this girl for four months now and I need help. For one she always wants to hang with her friends. When we first started dating it was the opposite, she wanted to be with me as much as possible. I just don't feel as close as I used to be with her.

She never puts smiley faces in texts anymore like that's not a big deal but its just a change. Whenever I say something nice to her all I get is a thanks. Nothing back. When I try to start conversations with her she just texts like she doesn't even want to talk to me. I don't know what to do. But she tells me she loves me and will never break up with me.

Sometimes when I'm at her house she gets on her computer or iPod and just acts like I'm not even there. Please someone answer my questions. I want to make my relationship with her stronger but I don't know what to do.

How old are the two of you? Our advice will differ according to ages.

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Originally Posted by J_9

How old are the two of you? Our advice will differ according to ages.

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were both 16

Sounds like the attraction is gone now. From personal experience, and don't quote me on this but this is a classic behavior of the "another guy" situation.

Have you tried not calling, not making plans with her, etc... to see if it makes a difference to her? Have you discussed our time your time with her? Maybe she thinks everything is normal and okay, maybe sh. Takes you for granted

Welcome to the real world of relationships and dating. Thing are always great and easy when its new and exciting, but it changes greatly when both partners get comfortable with each other after a time. My best advice, is text less, and have things to do in person together.

Texting is great for keeping in touch and keeping informed but no substitute for face to face relating, caring, and sharing. Especially when someone can be distracted by other tasks or interests waiting for replies and meaning can be lost just using words.

You want a better relationship, actually do something besides electronic relationships. Use the phone, and don't be so needy of having all her attention and time. Maybe you are in a rut and its not going so well or she has distractions, so why force it when you should have friends and activities that you enjoy that keeps you busy.

She doesn't appear to be the snuggle, cuddle, make out type and watch TV, so adjust to it, and keep her company, or bring your own entertainment. But above all NEVER believe a 16 year old will NEVER break up with you, and NEVER assume she is the ONLY one for you.

That's just youthful BS in the first place. Read my signature below guy, and deal with your reality.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Have you tried not calling, not making plans with her, etc.... to see if it makes a difference to her? Have you discussed our time your time with her? Maybe she thinks everything is normal and okay, maybe sh. takes you for granted

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Nah I think she Just takes me for granted. She broke up with me the other da. I'm pretty downed about it... then I went to fair she was at last night and she was there with other guys and I watched her hug him. But she told me when she broke up with me she just needs time apart and she said she won't find another man.

She may not be looking for another guy, but she may have an interest in one, and is open to having more than just a friend with them. That's pretty normal with 16 year olds girls and boys to be fair. Feelings are subject to change even if partners don't want them to, or even understand why they did.

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Have you tried not calling, not making plans with her, etc.... to see if it makes a difference to her? Have you discussed our time your time with her? Maybe she thinks everything is normal and okay, maybe sh. takes you for granted

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Yeah, I have just been letting her text me. I haven't texted her for the past 2 weeks and she will always end up texting me, then I will text her after she texts me. I'm kind of playing a hard to get thing to see if that will work

DUDE, texting cannot replace personal human interaction. I can dig you love being chased over your phone, but my gosh, playing games isn't the caring and sharing you need to build and have fun. Strokes your ego for the moment, but builds resentments later.

What game will you play next?

Personal real-time moments together matters more than anything. Maybe you should line up some fun things to do for each other and most likely things can turn around before you know it