Ask Me Help Desk - My parents are boring and I never get to play. Is my family normal?

I had the most boring family ever. I am 16 yr old girl and am an only child. All my friends did fun stuff I never do. These are all stuff I never done in my life ever: go to parks, celebrate my birthday, go on vacation, camping, go 2 different country, go on airplane, rollercoaster, chew gum, play with toys, sleepover, see friends outside of school, own a pet, swim, bike, sports, talk on phone and MORE!
Everyone gets cake, balloons, presents, party 4 their birthday. Me? Nothing. I ask my mom what I'm doing 4 my birthday party and she's like, "i don't want to", "it doesn't matter", LIKE WUT? NOT CELEBRATING UR KIDS Birthday? In the summer kids do stuff. I just lie down on my bed all day. I don't have games and books and stuff. I don't even go outside to play or get exercise which isn't good since humans need exercise. My moms like "I'm too lazy to take u out". Plus I don't go anywhere so my friends are all talking about it at recess what they're doing while I'm just standing dar listening. Wen I tell dem I'm not doing anything they are like WUT. My friends also talk about songs, shows, movies, which I no nothing about because I don't listen to music or watch TV.
My friends ask me 2 meet dem in the summer, go 2 der house or park but my mom says she's tired. She's always tired that I have 2 do stuff for her.sometimes I make dinner myself 4 both my parents and I done that since I was 7. Sometimes do laundry, clean toilet, wash dishes etc. And my mom never looks tired. She's energetic with my dad. Wen she says she's tired she stutters and seems like she's just making an excuse. I never own pets because they say they don't like animals and makes all sorts of excuses. For holidays we don't decorate da house. Plus my bedrooms walls, blankets, pillows are all plain and white. Wen aunts, uncles come they thot it was my parents room.
I also never been on rollercoaster. My friends talk about it its like "oh and the part where they drop u is soo fun!" "...then goes thru dat tunnel" "it was really high", & I don't know what they're talking about. Wats a rollercoaster? I don't even no!
Wen I want to go 2 da mall they're like, "it's 2 far", "we don't need to buy anything" like I just want to go for a walk? And it's not far. Its 200 meters away. A 5 min walk and your der.

What do you think? Please answer the following questions.
Wat would you do if my family was yours? Is my family normal? Are they considered 'boring'? Do I deserve a family like this? Is it healthy because I don't get exercise?

Thank you.

First, you can spend all this time you have on your hands and learn to use real words.

But it is a shame that your parents don't do things for you, but you are now 16 so why can't you do for yourself? Do any of your friends live in walking distance? Why can't you walk there. Do you have a bicycle? If your friends are going out on an outing ask if you can come along.

It's a shame your parents don't do these things for you, but its not illegal, so there is little you can do about except to get your friends to include you. If they are going to the mall ask if they can pick you up on the way. There are things you can do besides laying on your bed all day feeling sorry for yourself.

I'm with ScottGem: Where are your real words? You obviously are a texter, so your parents aren't totally out of it. What country do you live in?

Scott took the words right out of my mouth.

When I was a child, from the age of 11 on, I would ride my bike everywhere. During the summer my friends and I would go to the swimming pool almost every day, a fair ways from my house, and we always rode our bikes.

I don't understand how your mom being lazy prevents you from getting exercise. In fact, since she won't drive you anywhere you should be getting more exercise than most kids.

I am shocked that you're 16, your writing is horrible. Perhaps you should spend less time thinking about all the things you feel you're missing, and spend more time on your school work.

By the way, I've never been on a rollercoaster either, and I'm 42.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

First, you can spend all this time you have on your hands and learn to use real words.

But it is a shame that your parents don't do things for you, but you are now 16 so why can't you do for yourself? Do any of your friends live in walking distance? Why can't you walk there. Do you have a bicycle? If your friends are going out on an outing ask if you can come along.

Its a shame your parents don't do these things for you, but its not illegal, so there is little you can do about except to get your friends to include you. If they are going to the mall ask if they can pick you up on the way. There are things you can do besides laying on your bed all day feeling sorry for yourself.

Yeah I'm sorry guys that the writing, spelling and grammar was bad but I just didn't have room to say all those stuff so I had to put everything in short form. I'm sorry for that like spelling 'der' instead of 'there' and 'ur' instead of 'your' and all that.

Also I could do stuff like that on my own but it's just that my parents also makes excuses like "it's lonely in the house without you" or "we need you to do stuff" or "I think you're too old for that" - I'm not too old! I'm just a teenager that likes to hang out with their friends! Oh and also I don't have a bike which I already said I never rode a bike.

And right now I'm spelling the words out properly, so I do know how to spell.

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

I'm with ScottGem: Where are your real words? You obviously are a texter, so your parents aren't totally out of it. What country do you live in?

Here you go. Here are my real words. Well, yes I do text because my wonderful friends gave me money for an iPod! I know right? They're awesome! That's why I love them so much.

Oh and sorry I wasn't using proper language because I was afraid I didn't have room to fit it all in. I know it's a lot to say so I just didn't spell properly sorry about that.

How far are you from a friend, or town, or a park, or anything?
When I was your age, friends' parents picked other kids up to go only really special places. They took turns, not very often, and there were no malls. Maybe 3 times all summer.
We lived out in the middle of nowhere, small towns.
But you know what? I was always out exploring. I saved up babysitting money for a bike. I saved extra long to get one with both hand and foot brakes, because we had a lot of hills. I got off the bus to babysit and the parents took me home. I read tons and tons of books when I wasn't outside. My bedroom was old cracked paint on the walls, puke pink over dark blue, so I got a paint set and painted animals all over the walls (and got in trouble).
But we did have a dog, and I guess it was better than what you have. I'm sorry, but I have to agree with others that we all make the best of what we have. You sound like a lot of your boredom is self inflicted.

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Originally Posted by peacelove218

Yeah I'm sorry guys that the writing, spelling and grammar was bad but I just didn't have room to say all those stuff so I had to put everything in short form. I'm sorry for that like spelling 'der' instead of 'there' and 'ur' instead of 'your' and all that.

Also I could do stuff like that on my own but it's just that my parents also makes excuses like "it's lonely in the house without you" or "we need you to do stuff" or "I think you're too old for that" - I'm not too old! I'm just a teenager that likes to hang out with their friends! Oh and also I don't have a bike which I already said I never rode a bike.

And right now I'm spelling the words out properly, so I do know how to spell.

You are 16 and you have friends. So, ask if you can go to a friend's house. Just because your parents are lonely doesn't mean you are locked into the house with them, does it? Much better spelling, by the way!

I'm with Joy on this. I grew up in a town of 500. The industry was growing apples and some adults worked at the Mott's applesauce factory. The other adults lived on dairy farms surrounded the small town (two bars, applesauce factory and huge mounds of apples in a big parking lot, IGA grocery store, barber shop, and post office). There was no public transportation, and most families had only one car. Houses were far apart. I got a used bike from a neighbor who had outgrown it, and I rode it to school (a mile away). Once school was over, I rode home, played outside with my brother or read books until suppertime, and then did my homework. Bedtime was at 9. There were no computers, cell phones, or any electronic devices. My brother and I could spend hours playing with a plastic farm set or throwing a ball back and forth over the garage. We also put together jigsaw puzzles and played board games in the winter when we couldn't go outside. Our vacation was once a year to see my grandparents in either Illinois or Idaho. When I was old enough, I joined a church youth group that went on day trips for fun and did volunteering in a nearby city. We too carpooled with parents driving and taking us somewhere.

Like Joy said, you have to find and make your own fun and not depend on someone else to do it for you.

OK, so a bike won't work. And thank you for showing us you can write well.

If your parents are refusing to let you go out with friends at all (instead of just putting pressure on you to stay home), then you need to try and arrange an intervention. Do you have a clergyperson you can talk to? Is there a guidance counselor at school you can talk to? You need to arrange a meeting with your parents and a mediator who can explain to your parents that its not healthy to cut you off from your friends.

Other than that, you need to talk to your friends about how they can include you. Like I said, have them swing by to pick you up. Or walk to their houses.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

OK, so a bike won't work. And thank you for showing us you can write well.

If your parents are refusing to let you go out with friends at all (instead of just putting pressure on you to stay home), then you need to try and arrange an intervention. Do you have a clergyperson you can talk to? Is there a guidance counselor at school you can talk to? You need to arrange a meeting with your parents and a mediator who can explain to your parents that its not healthy to cut you off from your friends.

Other than that, you need to talk to your friends about how they can include you. Like I said, have them swing by to pick you up. Or walk to their houses.

Ok thanks. I'll try to do what you said. I was also thinking it wasn't healthy for me to only be able to see my friends in school and I never went outside to play when I was a little kid 5 years old so I wasn't healthy. Oh and I also forgot to mention everyone else in my class were taller than me because they exercised more and also ate more. My mom didn't cook a lot so I also wasn't getting enough nutrients I needed daily. But now I try to do it myself because I'm older at least.